Welcome back to another twin flame energy update. I hope you are doing well and excited for the holiday season! Not long now, time is flying by! Today's energy update is going to be about karmic cycles and how the twins have broken through them and are learning vital lessons from the experience. We are amidst one of the greatest shifts I have ever experienced both within my own connection and within the collective in over 15 years of my journey on this path. I will be talking again about the "tower" moment that many twin flames have experienced within their connection. By "tower moment" I am referring to an experience that really jolted you awake, often in an initially painful way. Likely your twin flame did or didn't do something and it made you realise that you were holding on too tightly and over-giving to your twin from a place of fear. Although you were hurt, (hopefully) the experience made you realise your own error in looking outside of yourself for the love you need to first cultivate within. The masculine was the divine messenger to make you reach this vitally important epiphany. I am going to talk about the karmic cycles that lead up to this tower moment from both the divine masculine and feminine's point of view and what's going on now since the illusions crumbled. Yes, it really was a blessing in disguise. What once appeared to be a solid foundation between you, crumbled to make you see there were many illusions, fears and wounds tangled up in that foundation, i.e. the foundation was faulty. Even though it appeared to be the foundation that crumbled, it was actually the faults falling away and it's only once the dust settles can we see the foundation is stronger than ever because it is built upon truth, the bullshit has turned to dust. Something drastic had to happen to wake us all up, otherwise we'd still be snoozing and operating within our connections from fear, going round and round in karmic cycles. Many twins were beating around the bush in their connection so to speak but the tower moment made us say "enough is enough! I'm done with this bullshit!" At first it may have felt as though you were done with your twin flame, and that is fair enough, but for many the dust is settling and you can see the bigger picture. You're done with the bullshit within your connection dynamic. The security blanket of living in fantasies and "what ifs" and always living for the future is over. That fantasy version of the connection likely DID serve you for a time, but that time is ending. Many twins are now choosing to live in the present moment. This is a really good thing! What does this mean? You're no longer tying up your happiness in a union with your twin flame. Yes, it is perfectly fine to still want that, but you are no longer DEPENDENT upon that for your sense of happiness, meaning and love in your life. The Masculine's Experience So, that tower moment... What lead up to it? I'm going to use the example of the divine masculine making a choice to either stay in a karmic situation or seemingly go backwards by running back to the "safety" of some kind of karmic situation. This could mean a karmic relationship, social circle, family situation, self-destructive habit etc. The tower moment occurred for many when the DM ran away and it left you feeling they had chosen someone or something else over you. For others, the tower happened because your twin flame disrespected you in some way that made you feel unloved. Whatever the tower represents for you, it would have triggered deep childhood wounds of rejection and abandonment. Well the first reason the tower moment happened was because there was some kind of false paradigm(s) subconsciously operating within your connection. Your higher selves and spirit would have orchestrated the tower to completely break through these paradigms based on fear, wounding and the separation illusion because they were causing you to hold on too tightly and get in your own way. A true union within and without could not happen in a false foundation. Desperately clinging to one another out of fear by looking outside of self for love and validation based on childhood wounds is not the vibration for true union. It MUST happen within. The tower moment happened to obliterate any bullshit that was blinding you and keeping you stuck looking outside of self. Your ego would have received a huge blow but it needed it! The ego would have been inflated (in both twins) in certain ways, feeling an arrogant sense of being "untouchable" but this ego trip is not the REAL sense of peace, not a true firm foundation within. The ego trip is based on looking outside of self for validation. In the old paradigm your twin or your connection would have been validating the false ego foundation in certain ways ("He sees me as a perfect goddess! No-one can compare, certainly not the karmic!", or secretly believing you're more superior than the "bog standard" human who hasn't met their twin!) The ego had been running high on self-importance "I am the best, better than others" (separation illusion), which is the shadow side of an initial awakening and often these connections fuel it at first. But the tower moment kicked a leg out from underneath your stool and made you topple back down to humility (looking rather red faced). This ego death (through realisation of truth) forced you to find REAL self love within (because it felt like the love had been taken away from you on the outside, ego taken down a peg or two), to build up your own foundation through genuine self esteem. You had to learn to love yourself no matter how much you felt like your twin was rejecting you. No more looking to him or her to be there and fill up your ego to feel good about yourself. It's time to fill up that cup of love all by yourself, by finally DOING THE WORK. But the tower moment happened because for too long the twins were stubbornly holding onto the other's validation. It was keeping them stuck in the illusion of separation (that love is outside of self and we aren't lovable unless someone else "proves" to us we are). For some of you that have had no contact, you would have been holding on too tightly SEEKING that validation and feeling controlled by the situation of them NOT giving you it. But everyone was too busy looking outside of self for the love and approval. Many runner twins were looking outside of the connection for it. Another key reason why the tower moment happened was because the feminine (in most cases) was seeking that validation so much from the masculine twin that she was trying to force him to come closer and unite with her as the ultimate declaration of his approval. This is looking outside of self! The whole point is that we learn to look inwards and know our own worth, this is the only way we will be truly happy. The universe is waiting for us to realise this and therefore union with another cannot happen unless we really do reach it within! Many feminine's (and masculines) have made the subconscious mistake to believe that the ultimate approval will come from a commitment from their twin. It's like they subconsciously feel worthless until the masculine chooses to come into union with them. But be honest with yourself, would it have even been right for you to come into union the way things were? Would you have really wanted that in that old dynamic? The masculine's knew they weren't being their best selves and so felt they had no right to have that union with you. (Many DF's were not being their best selves either if we're totally honest, even if it wasn't intentional). Why were the feminine's so sure they wanted union if basic needs weren't being met? Because we were living too much for the future and not looking at things as they are in the now. We'd tied up our worth in the DM choosing us BIG TIME, but it's like we hadn't even stopped to ask ourselves if the DM deserved US! They do deserve us in theory because they are good enough as a person, but their actions may not have been good enough (I'll get more into this in a bit). But this tendency to base our worth on a man's decision to commit to us or not is definitely conditioning from society! To think we *must* be really unlovable if we never have a man want to commit to us! It sounds so cringe-worthy and we may want to resist this truth of our brainwashing "in our day and age", "independent woman" and all, but it's been so ingrained within us that we didn't even know it was there. As if our worth is determined by that! We haven't even realised that it's such a damaging belief to hold about ourselves and our worth. The tower had to happen because neither of you were ready for union. You *thought* you were because you were still blinded by the faulty foundation. So you pushed and pushed and energetically it just pushed your twin away. Again, union cannot happen based on the faulty foundation so if you try to force things you only repel it and you have to learn the hard way! So many masculine's ran. For some of you it may have been quite shocking. You may have believed you were "past" that stage, or some of you may have experienced your twin coming forward wanting deeper connection and then as you got your hopes up they bolted. The truth is, they DID want union and they do still want that, it's just that, just like you, they were not ready. They may have chosen to stay put in their karma or run back to a "comfortable" karmic situation to "hide out" in. "Oh I can't be with you right now because look how much bullshit I have to deal with" (that they choose to leap back into). But was it really such a clean cut choice? Did their (and your) higher self orchestrate these events to create the tower and create a blessing in disguise to get everything back in order? In many cases there really WAS karma that still needed to be cleared in those situations and like I said, there NEEDED to be some kind of slap around the face for us to wake up and see the bs foundation we'd been operating from, which was holding us back, in order to clear it (our own karma). The karmic situation that your DM appeared to choose offered them the possibility of remaining "unseen". If you had been trying to force a union before it was time then they would have been freaking out, not feeling ready. They've had many fears about "coming out" and being their true selves. Fears about expressing their spiritual beliefs, fears about sticking up and speaking up for themselves and in some cases the divine feminine, fears about being enough or having enough to provide, fears about expressing their raw emotions, fears of heartbreak, fears of losing control etc. I definitely went through many of these fears too as the divine feminine, but many of these fears happened a few years before meeting my twin. In the midst of their blind panic (when the DF was trying to force him to be ready and commit more deeply) he couldn't see clearly. The fear took over and he sought relief and safety from those intensifying fears (he was feeling DF's intensifying expectations). So he made decisions based on fear and clouded by fear. He didn't feel ready to change and be the real him so karmic situations and people appeared to be very appealing in those moments of panic. For those who "fell back" into old situations, it felt like a very familiar place to be. It felt very relieving for the ego fears - safe and known. The ego would have been telling him that this is the "solution" to feel better (get rid of the fears of being his true self). So he jumped back in and likely even felt a sort of "honeymoon period" about it all for a little while. "Ah, yes! This feels easy (safe and known) like an old slipper." (lol) There would have been that "happy high" (like when you've just finished a public presentation in front of hundreds of people or something else really nerve-wracking and you're elated that it's over and went okay but still shaking and flustered a little bit by the adrenaline). But after a while, the fear wore off (because he'd "got to safety" tying himself up in karma again) and then he didn't feel the immediacy of being forced into union anymore or needing to take a leap of faith. So when that fear disappeared, clarity started to creep in again. The honeymoon with the karmic was wearing off, the "oh shit" sinking feeling of reality began to dawn on him. The "What have I done's" began circling in his mind. The adrenaline-filled bonding with the karmic died away and again he was left feeling the huge gulf between them. The feeling of being trapped living a lie became all too familiar again. "Oh, so this is why I left the karmic the first time around" or "Oh this is why I need to leave the karmic" had all come flooding back. "THIS time really ISN'T going to be any different with the karmic. There's no way I could turn this "easy" karmic situation (where I can hide) into anything close to resembling the love and connection I have with my twin flame." Their heart re-emerged (instead of head) and they thought "what the fuck have I got myself into?!" and "What have I done to my divine feminine?!" Suddenly the temporary relief from their fear did not seem worth the price they had to pay in the connection with the divine feminine, for this situation certainly woke her up (which I will get into a little later). This was definitely a time when the DM did not have temperance in the midst of fear. They allowed themselves to be controlled by the fear and then paid the dear price (which is actually a blessing in disguise because it woke both of them up BIG TIME). They thought they were saving themselves by running back to familiar territory but really it was the ego trying to save itself from crumbling by attempting to prevent the soul from shining through. But the irony of it is that in it's attempt to preserve itself by jumping back into karmic cycles, the ego actually catalysed it's own destruction so profound awakening and change could come in. The DMs' were trying to escape their fear but ended up jumping in the deep end of even bigger fears - that the feminine would leave them because of their fear fuelled actions! They thought they were avoiding facing their shadow, but it drew them so much deeper into it, more so than ever before. The Feminine's Experience When the masculine made the decision to jump back into or remain in karmic cycles the feminine got so pissed. It was likely due to the manner in which the DM's ran that triggered her so deeply. This time it felt different and for significant reason. I am not an astrologer, but I know that many twins experienced this tower moment around a very similar time of the eclipse season (but this still applies even if your tower moment happened at another time. Take what resonates). The second half of this year has certainly been a time of wrapping up old karmic cycles to make way for new significant shifts. We've all heard about "The Event" and how we are shifting like never before into New Earth. So when it appeared that the masculine was "going backwards" the divine feminine's felt "Hell no! I CANNOT go backwards!" It's because we've been feeling the significant shift FORWARDS for so long. The tower moment was so shocking because it "appeared" to go against the deep inner knowing that everything is significantly shifting forwards with greater momentum. Well, in truth, it only "appeared" that the masculine and your connection were going backwards, but in reality it was the very catalyst needed to propel you both forward SIGNIFICANTLY, pushing the DF to shift first the the DM followed suit. The DF's said "enough is enough". Our souls are pushing us forward (both DM and Df as we are One) and so it felt wrong to go "backwards". The thought of continuing a the karmic loop for another round was beyond exhausting. The combination of the DM pissing us off big time and the intense pull to keep moving forward was the exact trigger the DF needed to finally decide to LET GO and push forward with or without him. She realised just how much she had been holding herself back and tethering her worth to the DM's decisions. She saw how she'd subconsciously been giving her power away in this way. She realised that she was no longer willing to feel stuck and stagnant just because the masculine had decided to (seemingly) go backwards. She wasn't going to pin her hopes and happiness on the future anymore because the DM always seemed to be putting that off. All that was certain was the now, the future not so certain. The divine feminine realised that if she continued to wait for him to come around before she could feel happy then she would likely feel frustrated and unhappy for a long time after his decision to run the other way. Enough was enough. She didn't need him THAT much (especially if he seemed to so easily play with fire in your connection. It made you realise how much he was taking you for granted). Meanwhile, many of the DM's had NO IDEA that the DF would feel this way - they thought (due to DF's previous decisions over time to hold on and sweep things under the rug) that we the DF's would continue to be patient and understanding and keep waiting around for them. Well, not this time. That was a blow to their ego! The tower shocked them just as much as it shocked us! So the DF learned the meaning of healthy boundaries! She actually put them into practice. She learned that her time was precious and she did not take kindly to the masculine fooling around with her time. She realised that she herself had made the choice (out of her own fear) to put herself in that position of waiting and saw how she had unknowingly contributed to that stagnation with the DM too. Oh what a fool she felt about herself! If you're struggling to put up healthy boundaries because you fear losing your twin flame then my in depth video "How To Create Healthy Boundaries" can really help you with this step by step. For a while (and some of you may still be going through this) the DF's have gone into hermit mode and are afraid to be open and vulnerable with their divine masculine. We've been so open and nurturing in the past and then felt totally taken for granted. Now I am not saying the DM's are bad people, because I mentioned that BOTH twins had their ego's stroked in this connection, but for a long time we thought we were helping the DM to feel more confident about himself and self-loving (and in some ways we were helping them with that), but for a lot of it we were simply feeding their ego and it gave them an excuse to not do the work to create the love within themselves. It fed their ego because it appeared to them that we were worshipping them and we gave them control over us even though they may not have put in half as much effort into the connection that we were. When we don't love ourselves, we literally cannot attract truly loving and healthy situations. The dynamic was running from the fear and illusion based foundation and so that's how it was manifesting. Many of the DF's are now intuitively feeling the need to pull back from the DM. We've been taken down a peg or two of our own and come to many realisations of the illusions we'd built a faulty foundation upon. The way we got our ego stroked was by feeling we were the "awakened one", the "selfless", angelic mother archetype. But how much was that really being selfless and nurturing, when we were constantly looking to get something back in return in the name of approval? Be honest. Did you get an ego trip by feeling like the one in control (the mother type figure) to counteract feeling out of control by seeing yourself as the "enlightened one" simply waiting for the masculine to wake up? Did you have a condescending attitude towards your masculine, even if you didn't say it aloud? Because this is why they would have been trying to resist and stay in control - no one wants to be treated like a baby where "mother knows best". "Then why do they act like babies?" I hear some of you saying. Because maybe no one ever believed in them and gave them the time and space (without trying to cajole them or coax them, or mother them, or manipulate them) in order for them to do their own work, to find themselves, to love themselves. Maybe they saw you were wanting to play Mummy and baby, so in order to keep you in their life they played their part. If you were actively taking on that role over and over, it was giving the clear message that you wanted that role, otherwise you wouldn't have played it. But you didn't want that role, but you kept playing it out from a place of fear regardless. I'm not trying to blame anyone, I'm talking from my own experience and what I see so many times in the twin flame community. How many of you had this subconscious idea that you would play Mummy for now and when you got into union THEN you would be more of the receptive lover type? But you felt that you had to be Mummy to get to that point in the first place. Maybe you expected your twin to know that somehow? That you wanted things a certain way, to be equal, to feel like lovers and not mother / baby (which they need too) but you were coming at it from completely the wrong dynamic (Mummy), to catch that fish in the first place. You can't have one thing if you're coming at it from a completely different vibration. be the receptive lover type right now, give up being mummy. And by that I mean, FEEL how you want to feel. If you were lovers, how would you act and be. What would you do differently from the mummy role? We Subconsciously Wanted Them to Become Dependent So They Would Never Leave Us When we try to give our DM's all the love we think they need, it often has the effect of making them dependent on us. It keeps them looking for love and approval outside of themselves (another reason why we try to become "Mummy" because we fear losing them), and so they never truly have the space or time to be alone to find the love within. They never have the confidence to be an equal in the connection. When we over-give to the point of keeping them dependent because we think we are being loving, we are actually HOLDING THEM BACK from loving themselves (and holding ourselves back from doing the same). We try to shield him from all pain, soften the blow, fight his battles for him, or tell him (subconsciously) that he doesn't have to lift a finger so then he has NO EXPERIENCE and no need of doing things for himself, finding self love, standing up for himself, taking action towards his goals, sticking to his promises etc and then we end up wondering why he seems to be making no or very little progress or effort. We've created a comfort zone for him and it's not meeting his needs (or our own). When we take on the role of doing everything ourselves we end up with just that - doing everything ourselves. It's not a recipe for making the masculine feel good about himself (or us good about ourselves in truth either). It seems crazy that we do this because we don't even consciously know where it's coming from! It just seems to "happen" and we wind up in the same pattern again and again. But it's all part of the ancestral patterns passed down to us through our DNA. These are the unhealthy patterns we are hear to break. We may be left wondering why the masculine is stagnating in old karma and it's because we have been too! Fear based, codependent illusions, habits of taking control, subconsciously sabotaging intimacy too because we secretly have feared we are not good enough either (hence the itching urge to keep chasing and proving ourselves). We've made it all too easy - "You sit back, let me do all the hard work, let me sweep that bs under the carpet" and we label it "unconditional love". Well, where's the self-love in that? And honestly (and I know you didn't consciously mean to do this), where is the love in trying to keep someone codependent on you? In keeping them wrapped up in cotton wool so they never feel sure of themselves and their own capabilities that they can ever handle things themselves. I think many DM's attracted the DF in this karmic pattern because they were treated this way by their own mother. Does it appear that you truly believed in them? Do you think that makes them feel good enough, man enough? If we're acting like "Mummy", they are gunna feel like "baby". Then we have the gall to get pissed at them. Do you wanna feel like Mummy forever? If not, then step back. Stop being Mummy. If you refuse to stop, you will always remain as Mummy. Doesn't it feel like a huge sigh of relief to drop all that? To drop the roles we've been conditioned to feel the need to become, to feel like a worthy person. We're here to crumble those outdated paradigms that have been holding us back. It's happening now for many twin flames. The DF's can now see their own contribution to the tower moment CLEARLY. They know they must step back and be "cruel to be kind" to the masculine. It's the most loving thing to do. To allow them to grow on their own. There's no way a healthy union was going to happen in that old codependent dynamic. Video Lesson
Why the Twin Flame Community Means Well But Can Sometimes Lead Us Astray Sometimes this twin flame community can unintentionally send people in the wrong direction. There's been so much talk of "unconditional love", "holding space", "practising forgiveness", "showing compassion" etc etc and there's nothing wrong with any of these things at all, AS LONG as they are done in a balanced way. Although well intended, these message often give the impression of something totally different from their intended meaning. And that faulty message that most people hear is to become some perfect, selfless martyr. So we start putting our needs on a back burner and focus more on becoming what we think our twin needs or wants, or how much we can "sacrifice" ourselves to become worthy of God's approval for the union. We NEED to love ourselves and LISTEN to what our intuition is telling us about our own needs. How many times have you swept something your twin flame has done under the carpet without speaking up or putting up a healthy boundary? I bet every time you did that you had this horrible sinking feeling inside you which was your soul crying out for you to love yourself and not allow yourself to be disrespected. You would have told yourself, "Oh this little thing doesn't matter. My twin's just doing that because he's lacking confidence." Maybe that's true, but it's still no reason to ignore your soul's pain every time you disrespect yourself by going against what feels right and instead holding onto twin no matter what from a place fear. Now I'm not trying to make you feel bad about being a sensitive person and wanting to help your twin, because of course this isn't ALL about ego gratification, there is genuine love lurking beneath all the inner child wounding and of course many really do want the best for their twin and really did do their best to try and help. For example, many of us are so sensitive that we have always known our twin flame is good enough AS A PERSON, we just saw their actions weren't good enough because they didn't believe in themselves. We tried to help them believe in themselves, but we can't be the ones to do that for them. We made the mistake of turning a blind eye to too many things because we were holding onto knowing they are good enough as a person, we saw who they truly are beneath their fears. But again, that does not necessarily mean their actions (or lack of action) was good enough. It's all about the unconditional love vs conditional love confusion. Our soul has unconditional love for our twin flame's soul, but on the Earth realm there has to be conditions (healthy boundaries) for there to be harmony in any 3D way. The trouble arose when we tried to love them unconditionally (no healthy boundaries) in the 3D. Until or unless everyone is totally enlightened on this Earth plane, we cannot go around with no conditions. We'd just be inviting mistreatment. Some will argue "But we are here to become enlightened and bring the 5D and beyond down to the Earth and love unconditionally." Yes, but right now we are not enlightened, so until we are, we must love ourselves through healthy boundaries on this Earth plane. When you turn a blind eye over and over again, you can see why the DM thought you would just do the same this time around too. But no, that's not an excuse for the masculine to treat the feminine poorly in any way. Another issue I have come to realise is this concept that the twin flame connection does not follow the old paradigm relationship rules. Again this is true in many ways, BUT we must be realistic and balanced. We are soul AND human. Some of those old relationship "rules" DO still apply. But when we're told they don't apply, that we must practice unconditional love and be our true authentic selves with our twins, it's caused many divine feminine's to misinterpret the meaning of these "rules". Like I mentioned earlier, unconditional love does not mean ignoring your own needs. There's this illusion that the feminine is somehow being "selfish" or in "ego" if she places healthy boundaries in the connection. "It must be unconditional or you are acting from a low vibration". But I'm sorry, many of us have learned the hard way that if we don't place healthy boundaries (which ARE conditions) then as we know, it causes others to take advantage and we start ignoring our own needs. Another misinterpretation comes when we are told to be our authentic selves. The trouble is, many of us don't know our true authentic selves to begin with. As the feminine we feel this urge to chase, to give and give and give, to become a martyr. We *think* this is the real us, the authentic feminine inside. But that's the wounded inner child chasing outside validation. Yes, we do have natural nurturing qualities, but again, if it's out of balance due to fear of the separation illusion then it only leads to us totally smother our twin and burn ourselves out in the process. THAT'S the EGO identity, not the real authentic self. It's the ego that feels such a strong urge to chase and chase to finally "win the prize" (validation) that it never won before. But we think that's the real us. So we think that in "being the authentic me" we have permission to run free and chase more than ever before. The ego loves that! We let it loose in the name of "authenticity". Then everything blows up in our face and we're left wondering what happened. "But I did everything right! I was being authentic, and unconditionally loving, I gave and gave, I became a martyr to be seen as worthy enough by God for this union (validation), I tried so hard to prove myself to my twin but I was still "rejected"." You weren't being what you thought you were being, you weren't being the real you. The illusions were still in operation. Also, we think that because this is such a divine connection then we can get away with just being a bit lazy sometimes. Yes the DF's can become lazy too in some ways. We think, "My twin will always love me" so we may slack off when it comes to REALLY doing the inner work, to really take the time to see what both our needs are (not just what we *think* they are to keep us in the "I know best" mummy frame of mind). If we genuinely believe we are the "more powerful" twin then we can wait around and stagnate within ourselves. When we wait and no longer shift, then the masculine often heads off in the other direction because their soul cannot stand the stagnation either. That's what makes us shift too (hello tower moment!) The Tower Moment Had to Happen So, if you are here reading this and it's deeply resonating with you, can you now see why this tower moment HAD to happen? To wake you up and shake up the dynamic totally, to cause you to take space and allow the DM (and yourself) to grow without holding on too tightly to each other. The sad truth is that many twins don't see this bigger picture and they keep going round and round in the same circles for such a long time, feeling rejected, pissed off, operating from the wounded ego, being a martyr, feeling controlled by what their twin is or isn't doing - the list goes on... For many, this old dynamic is over. There's no going back to relating to each other in the dysfunctional ways. If the masculine can't keep up, then we're okay with that, we're no longer allowing that to mean we are unworthy. We know that's simply not true. We're just surrendering now and focusing on our happiness in the present moment. Some of you are going through an intuition vs. ego battle amongst all of this. The tower has triggered the separation illusion within you all the more. This is to bring it up to the surface to be cleared. Before the tower some of you may have felt like a team, like a "we" but after the tower it challenged your point of view and now you're left feeling like it's a "me" vs. "you". This will bring up many facets to sift through about the separation illusion and unconditional vs. conditional love. Right now some of you may see optimistic messages from the twin flame community and feel sickened by it, saying to yourself "Stop being such a fucking Pollyanna!" Lol. But this will all come back into balance again as the ego is worked through, the key word being BALANCE. The difference from now on is you will have a BALANCED understanding of this twin flame dynamic. No more holding onto castles in the sky without a grounded foundation. Too many of us have been ungrounded in the 5D and it was a form of escapism. We've been brought back down to reality which is a mixture of both 5D and 3D, intuition AND logic, masculine and feminine, love and healthy boundaries etc. This is such an important step! What the Feminine's Need to Do From now on we REALLY need to be authentic. That means being totally honest with yourself about what FEELS RIGHT FOR YOU. Don't bullshit yourself and put up with anything that doesn't feel right. This doesn't mean turning into an absolute arsehole diva type where you're asking your twin to kneel down and kiss your feet, but you need to be brave and politely put up healthy boundaries if you need to. You're not helping yourself or your twin flame if you're too scared to be true to your own needs. When you do follow your own needs, it is catering to your twin's REAL needs too, even if your twin kicks up a fuss because there's no more "Mummy" for him to hide behind. Be realistic! That's vitally important! Don't have outrageous expectations where you get mad at your twin for things he literally cannot give you (the things you need to give to yourself). Again, it's always a fine line and you have to be super honest with yourself and take the time to keep checking in with your intuition to know how to navigate forward in your own connection at any give time. It will get easier with practice. Something else that is absolutely essential... You need to overcome the fear of losing your twin flame. This fear is exactly what keeps you stuck in codependency and putting up with some things you shouldn't. At first you WILL fear that your twin won't be able to keep up with you and will fall away if you let go and stop walking on eggshells. But it's a risk you must take. Even if your twin can't keep up at least you are setting yourself free to be the real you, to live in the present moment and love yourself like never before. If you refuse to surrender and instead keep holding on, you will only keep going in circles and feeling insecure because you're basing your sense of happiness, security and love outside of yourself. You will never truly feel any of these things if you don't let go and focus now upon giving those things to yourself. Only when you are truly in that vibration of self-union can you be ready to attract that back to yourself. But then you won't NEED that on the outside, it will be a bonus if it happens. That's where you need to get to. If you're struggling to get to this vital point of true surrender then my meditation activation "Fearless Faith: I Am Safe to Trust" will really help guide you through this process. This Connection is Setting You Free Your twin flame connection is teaching you how to be the authentic you which only knows the reality of Oneness, or unity consciousness. It's liberating you from the separation illusion and the fears associated with that illusion. The way this tower moment works is that it's got so many of you so pissed off that you are no longer willing to be unrealistically courteous. Now I don't mean we should become brash and project bitterness and ugliness towards our twin. But what I mean is, we are no longer willing to simply hold our tongue when really we need to speak up. We're no longer repressing ourselves to hold up our DM. Some of you may feel the union might never happen now and you've become okay with that and so the fear of loss has dissolved for the most part. That means you are naturally more fearless in being your true self and honouring your own needs as well as your twin flames because there's "nothing to lose". And some of you are simply feeling "I don't want this connection if it stays stuck in the old dynamic anyway so fuck it, I'm just gunna be true to myself." This is exactly what we need! This is being the REAL AUTHENTIC YOU! (Again, it's not about being harsh and projecting wounds and resentment onto your twin!) It's going to align you with what's right for you, whether that's your twin or something else. Powerful Self Union Activation
What is the divine masculine learning from this? The divine masculines are learning so much from this shift too. Upon experiencing the shock of the feminine finally erecting healthy boundaries, saying "no" and taking distance, the masculine's finally have the time and space to see things clearly. They are really awakening. The universe needed us to let go in this way for the masculine to have the clarity and do the inner work. Before we were mollycoddling them too much and getting in both their and our own way. Here's a breakdown of what they are learning: That this connection IS real When you were sending them so much love they were happy to bask in it and felt pretty good. They didn't feel the urge to do the inner work as much as they do now because you were working so hard to "bridge the gap" and do everything for them. You are one, so when one over-gives in an imbalanced way, the other will be imbalanced in the opposite way. It's an energetic dynamic, it's not personal. You weren't giving them enough time and space to go inwards, to "problem solve" which is exactly when they awaken and really feel their intuition, the truth. Before you may have been trying to give them all the answers, but they must discover them for themselves and that's what they're doing now. That following fear only leads to more pain and tower moments When they ran away from you because of their intense fears they weren't thinking straight and made poor decisions. They have been afraid to face their fears of going inwards and facing their inner demons for so long. But through this tower and subsequent shift they are now understanding that operating from fear and avoiding their awakening is actually the very thing that causes them more pain and strife. They had to learn it the hard way in order to release their resistance. That fear blinds you to the truth They see now that their fear was clouding their judgement. They realise that from now on they must try to calm themselves and make important decisions from that place of calmness, from their heart. When they ran back to karmic cycles because of their fear they see now that it was only the sense of getting rid of the fear that was leading those decisions. For many of them they jumped from the frying pan into the fire. They are seeing that the only way to be rid of fear is to face it head on. That their heart was right all along Many of them doubted their intuition for a long time, but when they realised what they had once it was gone they saw clearly exactly what they DID have. They see it more clearly than ever. They know it was just their fears causing them to doubt their heart. That making rash decisions and playing with fire leads to consequences Like I mentioned before, many masculines thought the df would just stick around no matter what. They played with fire in your connection because they thought they could. They didn't think there would be any real consequences to their actions. Now they are realising that they shouldn't assume anything, that they can't just slack off and do the wrong thing without there being consequences. That the feminine isn't going to keep kissing their arse no matter what He's seeing how she's now loving herself. He's very proud of her but it's also daunting for him to know that he now has to actually do the right thing if he wants to stay on board in this connection. This is exactly what they need though to inspire them to be their best selves. I think for many of them this new dynamic secretly excites them, it scares the hell out of them, but in a good way because it inspires them to be their best selves. That they were taking the feminine for granted and need to appreciate the blessing that they have Many of them feel like a fool after what's happened. They now realise what they had but were taking for granted. They feel bad for not honouring the feminine in the way they know she deserves. This is helping them to do things the right way though. It's helping them to not take the feminine for granted ever again. These are just some of the things they are learning. I will go into more in future energy reports. It Will Feel Messy for a While A LOT has changed in your dynamic. A lot has been triggered and a lot has come into your awareness for the better. You will likely flit between ego and soul knowing for a while. You may not know exactly how to relate to each other in this new dynamic just yet. That's okay. Keep following your intuition. The shifts are still happening. What has crumbled is now being rebuilt upon, the foundation grounded in truth. Go with the flow. Do what feels right for you. You're already come so far. Love to you always on your continued journey, Karen x Video: How to Create Healthy Boundaries that Speed Up Union (34 Minutes)Are you afraid to create healthy boundaries in case it causes you twin flame to disappear from your life? Are you constantly walking on eggshells and feeling mistreated or taken for granted? Do you find yourself getting angry with your twin a lot? Are you secretly angry with yourself because you feel you are disrespecting yourself? Do you feel you are the only one putting in all the work? Do you feel humiliated when you open up to your twin and they completely ghost you or treat you badly? These are all signs that you need to implement healthy boundaries. You may be afraid that it will mean your twin will disappear out of your life, but do you really want someone there just because you're the one holding on so tightly? What about your emotional needs? This journey is all about loving yourself after all. What if I told you that implementing healthy boundaries would actually draw your twin flame closer to you (not by playing games but by simply honouring your own needs and loving yourself). What if I told you that this is the key to stop going in circles and actually have positive action towards union once and for all? Boundaries force the other twin to face their fears and actually do the inner work. That is what everyone truly wants. It can be a scary process, but it's the only thing that stops you going in circles and delaying your highest good, If it means the person exits your life for good then it's not your twin anyway and it makes room for your real twin to come into your life. 34 minutes Watch right now
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Do you believe that the universe is blocking you from receiving love? Do you have a history of failed relationships where you felt you loved the other person more than they loved you? Does it feel like love is always slipping through your fingers and that you are powerless to get the other person to stay? Can you see a pattern in your relationships where this has happened and you've thought to yourself "WHY?!" and feel a sense of doom as you just know it's going to happen again? Is this how you feel in your twin flame connection too? And this time it feels even more painful, right? That your twin flame keeps pulling away and it's such a struggle to try and keep him/her in your life? The sense of abandonment and rejection is insanely painful and you can't understand how they could want to run away from such profound love. Are you feeling abandoned, rejected and unloved? Is it affecting you very deeply and causing you to feel utterly depressed and devastated? Are you confused as to why your twin flame is running when you know that deep down they love you just as strongly as you love them? Does it feel like some sort of sick punishment from the universe, as though "they" are telling you that you aren't good enough to have this love you want so badly? Well, even though it may be hard to believe right now, the truth is the universe really, really wants you to receive the true and happy love that you deserve. Hear me out... It may feel as though they are conspiring against you, putting up blocks and deeming you "unworthy" but really the universe is desperately trying to help you receive love because they love you so much, they want to see you happy and they want the best for you. They KNOW you are worthy and it's got nothing to do with "worthiness" at all in truth, because we are all worthy and they know that. It's only our conditioning into separation-consciousness that has told us there is such a thing as "worthy" and "unworthy" of love. In truth we ARE love, it's not something outside of ourselves we have to search for or try and become "worthy" of in order to be allowed access to it. "So why doesn't the universe just make it work out between me and my twin? Why are they blocking me from having this? And why did they bring me such horrible ex partners and painful experiences if they love me so much?" you may be wondering. The truth is, the universe gives us what we need in order to become ready to receive what we truly want and what is for our highest good. You could even say that it's our higher self controlling this. If we want love in our life then why are we given the exact opposite? Because the universe and our higher self wants us to be TRULY happy and the only way we can achieve this is by finding it within. You've heard this all before I know, but it's important for me to explain this as a process that your soul agreed to embark upon by going through some pretty crappy times to say the least. Basically the universe and our higher self wants us to be happy by reuniting with our true soul self, aka self-union. If the universe just gave us the relationship, the marriage, the union with our twin but we hadn't found the love, peace, joy, fulfilment, meaning, wholeness etc within ourselves first then we would not truly be happy. We think that another outside of us can make us whole and happy and take away our wounds of abandonment and rejection, but in truth that's just a band aid that could be ripped off again any second, and likely will be with our twin and all the triggering until we really have achieved self-union. Our soul wants us to feel secure from within, to feel the constant safety of self-love, so that no matter what is going on on the outside, we still know our worth, we still know we are lovable and loved by the universe and we don't take anything as a reflection of our worth. We have reconnected with the truth of unity-consciousness, knowing we are always One with love and never separated. We trust everything happens for a good reason instead of thinking the universe is being unfair to us or "punishing" us. I mean, can you look back at a time in your past when you were utterly convinced in your mind that a karmic person was the one for you and you just HAD to be with them even though the relationship was totally rubbish or even toxic and all the signs were yelling at you to love yourself more and not put up with such crap?! But you had convinced yourself that you needed this person and weren't going to change your mind about it any time soon! (Trust me, I did this many times years ago and so I'm not judging anyone). The universe wasn't preventing these people from miraculously transforming into someone completely different (the fantasy person you had projected onto them and wanted them to be) just to be mean to you. In truth if you were wanting the person to change so much to fit it with what you wanted then you didn't really love the real them, you were in love with the projection. This is part of the lesson - if we want to be loved unconditionally, then we also need to love the other unconditionally. The universe was making it NOT happen with that particular person to try and protect you! The universe knew you could do way better! They were waiting for you to wake up and love yourself so you could attract what you really wanted - true love. The universe has been trying to communicate with you and guide you down the best path for you the whole time through your own guidance system that is directly linked to your higher self and the higher dimensions. This is your intuition, gut feeling or heart truth. They've not abandoned you, you'd just forgotten how to consciously link into their loving guidance and forgotten that you could trust that guidance. This amnesia is all part of incarnating here on Earth. In all honesty, did you experience sinking feelings and negative gut reactions in some of your past relationships? Did you flat out ignore the red flags or neon-flashing signs and tell yourself "I can MAKE it work!" The universe was trying to show you that trying to force a square peg through a round hole wasn't in your best interest! They wanted you to stop looking in that direction in order to eventually bring you to the square hole you could slot into perfectly, or in other words, the universe was trying to guide you to your highest good. They gave you the warning signs but out of fear and distrust you chose to ignore them and plough ahead with what you wanted and dreamed could become perfect if you just showed the person more love. It felt too scary to let go and surrender to allow something better to come in because you felt the universe was conspiring against you and so you had to control things yourself. You told yourself that this path was the best for you, that nothing better would come along. The universe knew otherwise and they were trying to guide you. Hopefully you can look back with hindsight and see it was a Godsend that some of those past relationships didn't work out. You can see clearly now that they weren't for your highest good. The universe was trying to help you realise that all along because they love you and want the best for you. When it comes to your twin flame connection the universe is equally trying to guide you on the best path to allow your highest good to unfold naturally. You have to believe that the universe is supporting you and then you will see their support affecting miraculous change. That's why we need to trust and surrender. It's hard I know, because when we've believed for so long that the universe was working against us it can be difficult to trust and believe they have our back and are trying to actually help us achieve everything we want. They want us to listen to our intuition, to slow down and consider everything from the heartspace, not bolt into action to try and "lock it down" from a place of fear about "losing" our twin and the love. We cannot lose it, but we need to slow down and align with it it within in order to become ready to receive the love we desire. This allows us to achieve self-union where we know that we are loved, that it comes from within first and then once we have become that vibration we can then attract it to us on the outside. But finding it within is most important and eventually we realise that along the way. When we believe that the universe has been "punishing" us by "withholding love" from us or not changing someone to accommodate what we wanted them to be for us, we can mistakenly believe that the universe is always going to punish us or "withhold" love from us. We can lose faith in the universe and therefore create even more fear when it comes to receiving love. If we enter into relationships with the idea that the universe is going to block it or take it away from us then that belief manifests as our reality, not because the universe is taking the person away from us, but because WE believe that is what will happen and so we attract that scenario of "separation" and also contribute to it because our fears make us act in desperate ways which pushes the other person away. In truth we are Co-Creators with the universe and we have much more power than we realise over how our life and love life unfolds. The law of attraction is always at work you see. These limiting patterns and beliefs of feeling separated from love and thus grabbing hold of it tightly actually prevent us from receiving the very love we are so badly wanting. When we believe we can't truly have love or that it's a struggle to keep ahold of then we energetically push it away because our beliefs become our reality. These destructive patterns are nearly always borne out of childhood wounding. We look to our partners to love us in all the ways we were not loved in childhood. Have you ever noticed how your ex partners or your twin flame are emotionally unavailable like your parents were? Or that they mirror some aspects of your childhood wounding? Subconsciously we attract the exact people who will trigger the very wounds we are trying to heal. Mistakenly we believe the other can fill in the void, make us whole, but they cannot. They enter our life to act as a mirror to allow us to see all the ways in which we are not loving ourselves but need to in order to find true peace and happiness. These people also reflect every limiting belief we have surrounding our worth and love and the wounds will manifest over and over in the connection until we solve them within ourselves. So all that's really going on is a set of limiting beliefs we learned from a very young age where we felt unworthy when we did not receive the love we needed from our parents and then it manifests in our other relationships until we see it's within our power to affect the change we desire to make in our life and relationships. It's never been the universe "cutting us off" or deeming us "unworthy" to have the bandaid. They just wanted our true healing. What message does spirit have for you?
It's just a collection of beliefs manifesting. So all it takes is a little bit of effort to change those beliefs now you are conscious of what's been going on and that you have the power to create this change. It's not that the universe wasn't giving you opportunities to have love, it's that you hadn't yet learned how to RECEIVE love by loving yourself first and realising your worth to deserve only true love. This is where I can really help you make a profound shift to open you up once and for all to be able to receive love. I can help you clear out these old limiting beliefs about feeling unworthy and about the universe punishing you. I can help you really see the truth of how the universe was merely protecting you and how they love you so much that they are really wanting you to finally break this pattern to allow true love in. They want your happiness and are constantly working around the clock to help you achieve this. They are excited for you to be more aware of the subconscious pattern that has been holding you back for so long so now you can finally shift it, release it and experience the true love you have been seeking like never before. I can help you reconnect with deep unconditional love within and help you trust in the universe again to achieve your deepest desires of true love. I have created a brand new healing activation called "I BELIEVE, I RECEIVE: Releasing Blocks to Receive Love" which takes you step by step through the process of understanding that the universe is not blocking you, but trying to help you. I help you to see just how loved and looked after you are. I help you to shift the old limiting beliefs that have been on repeat for too long so you can now believe in your worth, believe the universe is assisting you, believe you are now aligning with love and union within yourself and with your twin flame. I help you to reprogram the negative beliefs that have been blocking you by transforming them into positive beliefs that allow love in. I help you really get clear in realising that it was simply a set of beliefs that have been holding you back - that is all! And that changing your beliefs to align with what you really want is within your power and so the manifestation of union is also within your power. I help to make this realisation clear and easy so that union can flow in more easily too. I help you release the inner struggle and truly surrender in knowing your highest good is coming to you. This then allows it to manifest. The activation will help you whether you are within a twin flame connection or not because it is preparing you to align with true love and therefore your highest good in love will come into your life as a result. Begin to relax and live in much more peace by truly knowing and trusting that the divine is serving your highest good. This will help you to release any control issues you may have been struggling with in your twin flame connection so you can concentrate more on your own wholeness and this will allow union to flow into your life in the best way intended for you. If you would like to create HUGE healing shifts, finally release yourself from the old limiting beliefs that have been blocking your from receiving love and union then I invite you to experience this journey with me in "I BELIEVE, I RECEIVE: Releasing Blocks to Receive Love" . All it requires is a small effort on your part to listen to this meditation on a regular basis. If you listen to it often then you will experience PROFOUND shifts. I really hope you enjoy the meditation and all the benefits that come with it! I look forward to guiding you on this journey on the other side! As always, Love and Light to you, Karen x I Believe, I Receive: Removing Blocks to Receive Love Powerful Activation MP3Has there ever been a time in your life when all you wanted was a loving relationship but you felt as though the universe was keeping that from you? No matter what you did a relationship would never get off the ground or would fall apart at the seams the second it did. Do you feel this way about your twin flame connection too? In this powerful activation I guide you on a journey to see that past relationships didn't work out in order to steer you in the RIGHT direction towards TRUE happiness and love, towards true union. I help you to truly understand that the universe has always been supporting you to align you with what is best for you, your highest good even if it didn't seem that way at times. You see, the universe always has our back and is truly wanting us to experience the best love possible for us. They were trying to help us turn our focus away from those who weren't serving us so we could look inwards and love ourselves first in order to achieve true happiness and attract the RIGHT person, our twin flame. It's all about resonance. If we aren't fully loving ourselves then we cannot align with true love on the outside either. The universe was trying to get us happy in our own skin on our own so we can love ourselves unconditionally and become that high vibration in order to have that mirrored back to us on the outside in the form of a happy and harmonious union. However, when we still have subconscious beliefs in the background telling us that the universe is conspiring against us, or is "punishing" us by withholding love from us, then this subconscious belief manifests as blocks to us receiving love. Whatever we believe we receive. In this meditation I help you reconnect with the universe so they can show you just how much they love you and truly want the best for you. I help you to break down those old limiting beliefs and blocks in order to integrate the truth that you deserve true love and union and the universe is assisting you in achieving that. All it takes is to shift into trust and faith that the universe is serving you and knows you are totally worthy of everything you wish to receive. And then you can surrender and give up trying to control things as the universe helps everything manifest in divine order for you. You see, it's about getting out of our own way to allow our highest good to flow in! 40 mins length For legal reasons I must state that this MP3 is for entertainment purposes only. MP3 Plays on iPhone, Android, PC, MP3 player etc. Instant download. When we are fearful on this twin flame journey we either become overly cautious guarding our heart or we become overactive in trying to force the connection. Both cautiousness and forcefulness are reactions to a fear of loss. For most twins their biggest fears are abandonment and rejection, of union not happening and being heartbroken. This can cause us to be cautious when it comes to trusting in love and opening our hearts to be able to receive love. The mind can run riot with all kinds of doubts and negative assumptions and we constantly feel on edge in a state of panic. Not a fun place to be! So why do we have these fears exactly? Often we have lost faith in love and in the universe because of past experiences of heartbreak, either with our twin flame or with others. We felt betrayed and abandoned and began to believe the universe was withholding love from us. In the past we trusted so openly and then felt humiliated when our hopes and dreams came crashing down. We vowed to never be that naive again. So we erected walls around our heart, we monitored our actions and communications, censoring certain things as to not reveal too much to our love, just in case the rug is pulled from beneath our feet again. We analyse everything through a pessimistic or cynical filter, not fulling trusting the guidance of our wise heart. This is all very common and a natural reaction to heartbreak. We also create intense fear surrounding our twin flame connection when we are holding on too tightly to the idea that union is going to be the magic pill to solve all our problems. When we place all our eggs in the union basket and tell ourselves that we must be together with our twin flame in a certain way in order to be happy then union soon becomes a life or death situation so to speak. When we centre our world around a certain outcome, the possibility of that outcome not happening becomes all the more terrifying. The trouble is, our fears block us from going with the flow and allowing our highest good to flow into our lives naturally. We become tense and it's like putting a spanner in the works or a shield over our heart halting the natural stream of abundance and love wanting to come in. When we try to ignore these fears they remain stuck in our subconscious so we must bring them to the light to be released. So what's the solution? How can we release these intense fears and open our heart to receive love? By facing them head on! Many twins are so afraid of union not happening that they cannot even bring themselves to even imagine life without a possibility of reunion. But we must imagine what our life would be like without union ever happening. It might be a terrifying prospect to begin with, but the idea behind this is that we must see our lives being perfectly happy and fulfilling even if union with our twin doesn't happen. If we believe that life is over if union never happened then we are in BIG trouble! We are placing too much emphasis outside of ourselves for happiness and this is a huge sign of codependency which is totally out of alignment with union. Codependency is what creates major fears and major blocks. The solution is to picture life without your twin in it and seeing yourself as completely happy regardless. Then we must take action steps to actually make ourselves happy in the present moment in our lives so we are no longer putting all of our eggs in the union basket. It means facing our fear of union not happening head on and learning to be okay with that possibility. Then our fears become released and we can go with the flow, trusting that the universe is always bringing us our highest good and we don;t have to worry. Now this is not necessarily about dating other people, but I am talking more about what can you do for yourself to give yourself everything you have been looking to union to provide you with? How can you create your own wholeness, joy and self love? The answer to that will be different for everyone. Overcoming your biggest fears surrounding union is a MUST if you want to learn how to fully trust, be at peace and align with inner and outer union. You must get out of your own way. In order to really assist you in overcoming these fears once and for all in order to open your heart to receive love and union I have created an in depth healing meditation called Fearless Faith: I AM Safe to Trust. In this meditation I take you to the heart of your fears. Instead of avoiding the fears by looking outside of yourself to your twin for validation and thus continuing to block the union, we will explore integrating these fears. Through allowing ourselves to get more comfortable with the possibility of life without union, with being happy and fulfilled regardless of what happens with our twin flame, we release the fears and allow the flow of our highest good to come into our lives. This opens us up to receiving union with our twin, if that is for our highest good. If not, then we have created a space to become fulfilled and happy within ourselves and our lives regardless, so it's a win-win situation! Through releasing the fears and knowing you will be okay, more than okay, if union didn't happen, you reach inner union. You know that you are always in control of your perspective of how you see and live your life and so you can be happy if you choose to be no matter what. This meditation activation removes the fears, brings you comfort and allows you to relax and align with inner union and outer union. All it requires is a small effort from you to listen to this meditation on a regular basis. If you listen to it often then you will experience PROFOUND shifts. I really hope you enjoy the meditation and all the benefits that come with it! I look forward to guiding you on this journey! As always, Love and Light to you, Karen x Fearless Faith: I AM Safe to Trust - Powerful Block Removal Activation MP3One of our biggest fears surrounding our twin flame connection is often the idea that union will never happen. This fear stirs up all sorts of painful emotions - abandonment, rejection, terror, heartbreak - no fun at all! To make matters worse, our fears make us act in all sorts of desperate ways that actually push away our twin flame - paranoia, jealousy, clingyness, bitterness etc. Our inner child is crying out to be loved in all the ways we felt abandoned and rejected in childhood. When we yearn so badly for outer validation from our twin to the point of feeling desperate, energetically this repels union because we mistakenly believe we NEED union in order to feel happy, whole, loved etc, but our soul is trying to teach us to first align with union within - taking responsibility for our own emotional wellbeing. In this meditation I take you to the heart of your fears. Instead of avoiding the fears by looking outside of yourself to your twin for validation and thus continuing to block the union, we will explore integrating these fears. Through allowing ourselves to get more comfortable with the possibility of life without union, with being happy and fulfilled regardless of what happens with our twin flame, we release the fears and allow the flow of our highest good to come into our lives. This opens us up to receiving union with our twin, if that is for our highest good. If not, then we have created a space to become fulfilled and happy within ourselves and our lives regardless, so it's a win-win situation! Through releasing the fears and knowing you will be okay, more than okay, if union didn't happen, you reach inner union. You know that you are always in control of your perspective of how you see and live your life and so you can be happy if you choose to be no matter what. This meditation activation removes the fears, brings you comfort and allows you to relax and align with inner union and outer union. 40 mins length For legal reasons I must state that this MP3 is for entertainment purposes only. MP3 Plays on iPhone, Android, PC, MP3 player etc. Instant download. *Warning: This update is very raw and honest and will trigger some of you. But for most of you I know you can handle such truth and actively seek it out :-D* Also, as a side note, to the person who plagiarised my previous update in many places word for word and created your own video claiming it to be your own channelled message, I AM aware (thank you to those who informed me) and I will be taking action if you do it again. By all means it's great to spread the twin flame message, but credit the appropriate authors or truly channel your own. This is a path all about integrity after all. Okay, so lets get into the update... So I've talked quite a lot already about "the tower moment" that many twin flames went through recently. These messages are continuing to build upon all the shifts and insights that have come from that moment since. Many of you experienced something happening within your connection that seriously made you wake up and erect healthy boundaries. You realised that you weren't loving yourself and the masculine was the divine messenger to show you that, in most cases by doing something your ego did not like! But many of you are now seeing the bigger picture and are starting to understand why this had to happen. The tower moment had to be something that would really shake you up and it would have made you feel like your twin was rejecting you in some way. Basically you felt as though your twin flame wasn't loving you as much as you were loving him. You may have felt as though he was prioritising someone or something else above you and it would have made you feel very hurt and resentful, feeling like you were dedicating yourself 110% and him not dedicating himself to you and your connection equally. But are we being totally honest with ourselves? Truly? Some people have complained that I'm always deducing things to mean it's all the feminine's fault and I'm just letting the masculine off the hook. This is not the case at all! But we need to be super honest with ourselves on this journey. No, the masculine needs to actively heal himself too, but as a feminine myself, I am speaking from the feminine's point of view and therefore looking deeply into what our side of the equation can heal. To be honest, it's the only thing we have any control over, our own healing, and so that's what we should be focusing on. It's pointless saying the masculine needs to heal this, that and the other and focusing on them all the time because then it could start sounding like it's all up to them and we just have to wait around for them for us to be happy. No! 1) It's a 50/50 job, 2) It's never about waiting around for someone else to make us happy or for a set of circumstances to unfold between ourselves and our twin before we can be happy. So lets be bravely honest with ourselves. Many of us have have been kidding ourselves that it's as black and white as the masculine being the bad guy and the feminine the good. Our ego definitely loves to think that, to play the victim, to feel like the "selfless angel" we were taught by society to become. When we cast the masculine in the "devil" energy, we feel more like the "saint". But we all have both black and white, yin and yang, shadow and light. To be fair society is guilty of stereotyping us into these roles to the point where we believe it's who we are - masculines feel inherently "bad", feminine's feel inherently "angelic victims". Of course, this is a gross simplification in and of itself, but you get my point. So in that tower moment it looked like your twin was the bad guy (and I'm not condoning bad behaviour) but for many of you, you know only too well just how this mirroring thing works. Be honest, how were you BOTH contributing to the tower moment? I am going to focus on how that tower moment and our twin's behaviour, decisions and actions are a mirror of our own divine feminine energy. And yes, it works the other way around too - we definitely reflect the masculine's vibration he is in. For example, a few years ago my twin needed to create healthy boundaries around his karmic partner and he did that, he ended the relationship with her. Before he even told me that I suddenly put up healthy boundaries with him in certain areas and to me it felt like this impulse within me to do that "came out of nowhere" - I was not expecting to say no to my twin in that moment. But when he told me he broke it off with her (put up healthy boundaries) it suddenly dawned on me that I was reflecting his self-love actions by erecting my own healthy boundaries with him. When either one shifts into a higher vibration, the other follows suit. So, how was that recent tower moment a reflection of our own feminine energies? Why did something happen that made us feel as though everything came crashing down? Well, firstly it was because both twins were stuck in a rut, in a karmic cycle where they were both playing out old paradigms which simply weren't working to evolve them further down the enlightenment path. Both twins have a shared goal of deeper and deeper awakening. They are each other's mirror to help achieve that. But in the tower moment it felt like your twin simply didn't love you. It felt like an outright rejection. The purpose of this was to crumble the old notion of looking for love outside of self. Were they really rejecting you, or were they repelled energetically by some kind of illusion? What were they trying to show you? The tower came crashing down because we were finally ready for the next level of awakening. We were ready to be honest with ourselves. It may have appeared that things went backwards, that your divine masculine was no longer just content with going at the pace of a tortoise, but now he was actually going backwards! This would have made you feel seriously fucked off! "As if I haven't been patient enough already!" you would have been thinking. "What a joke!" It would have felt like he was running from you and your ego was hurt big time! But this is the point, to deny your ego what it wants because what the ego wants is counterproductive for your soul growth. The ego wants the quick *sigh* fix (getting your needs met outside of yourself) but your soul does not want that at all - you incarnated together to catalyse each other into deep soul growth which means giving that love to yourself and knowing you are worthy just as you are right now. If your twin was going the speed of a tortoise then you were too in some way... It was just tricky to see it. The ego believes in the illusion of separation - "I need to find the love and validation outside of myself to know I am worthy", but the soul wants inner union, to find God through looking into oneself and knowing that we are God/dess and nothing is separate from us. Your twin will deny your ego's desire for shortcuts and quick fixes and force you into true awakening. Their higher self will cause them to purposely NOT give you what your ego wants so you are forced to find it all within, find the truth, unpeel the layers to get to your core. This is what's helping you break through the illusions. The tower moment was just another stage of this - a crumbling of ego's immature desires to help you mature into deeper self love, respect and inner union. You were ready for this, it wasn't a "mistake" or a setback. You both wanted out of the stagnation and you both manifested it. So when it appeared that your twin flame was going backwards, you mistakenly believed that meant you were also gunna have to go backwards because you were putting yourself on hold and waiting for him to decide to come closer before you could be happy. That false believe would have totally exasperated you. You simply knew you could not go backwards anymore! Your soul literally could not do it. For too long we'd tried to hold back our growth to accommodate the masculine's tortoise pace (a reflection of our own too), but you see this was exactly where we'd always being going wrong. We'd suppressed ourselves, put ourselves on hold and that only lead to our twin slowing down further too. I'm not talking about us trying to speed up the union and force it, I am talking about how we needed to always go at our own pace in our own life in general, not slowing down into "waiting" which means stagnating. You slowed down by becoming codependent and moulding yourself to be what you thought they wouldn't reject, they slowed down because they could not get through that block you'd created and love you when you weren't loving yourself. They would have been doing the same thing, worrying more about what you thought of them than being true to themselves. You were both blocked because of fear. The dm was the divine messenger to show you that you could not stagnate any further. Like I said, your soul literally could not stay in that vibration any longer. Neither could they so they were energetically repelled, which woke you up. The dm needed to light a fire under your ass to force you forward, to break free of your fear based stagnation in the form of holding on, being overly understanding, patient, having no boundaries etc etc. So what appeared to be the dm and connection going backwards was actually your twin's way of PROPELLING YOU FORWARD like never before! See, the dm's were tired of stagnating also, their soul could not handle that vibration and so when we were trying to force things the wrong way (through fear, through looking outside of self for love and healing), the dm was literally forced away from us energetically. That square peg was not going to go through the round hole. They needed to trigger the divine feminine's inner child wounds (that were the exact ones causing us to cling on in fear and illusion of separation) so we were forced to love ourselves once and for all. It would have been something to make us feel "I deserve better than that!" or "I can't wait around any longer!" Subconsciously we were making the masculine's feel rejected by trying to force things because we weren't believing in their power and strength to be their divine selves. So both ended up feeling rejected. It temporarily forced you to take distance from each other. That state of hermit mode is where all the clarity started flooding in. They were waiting for the divine feminine to heal, to take back her personal power by providing love for herself. Through what appeared to be the masculine resisting the feminine and union, was really them giving us the time and space to heal ourselves within, to reach a deeper awakening so we could see beyond that illusion of separation. They were helping us to rise up. And when we did, this helped them to rise up too, to see the light, to heal themselves too. The feminine had been stuck in tunnel vision, holding on tightly to fixed expectations about how she thought things should unfold. It was the separation illusion in operation and union within and without could never happen in that vibration of illusion. Many of us were refusing to let go, to surrender and so the masculine had to step in and create a tower moment to force this shift to actually speed up awakening, healing and union. Like always, the tower was a blessing in disguise. The Tower Humbled Us The tower moment was a real shocker! It really smashed open our ego but when the dust settled we realised how it had obliterated the ILLUSIONS of our ego. This is when clarity could come in. We could see how we'd been mirroring our divine masculine all along. How it APPEARED in the past that we wanted one thing and our twin wanted another, how we wanted love and how the masculine was resistant of and rejecting our love. We started to see our own resistance and fears of deep emotional intimacy. We started to see how we weren't loving the masculine and subconsciously rejecting and hurting them. And this is where it gets super honest. Many of the divine feminine's have begun to realise that their actions towards the masculine were not as loving as they were telling themselves they were. We can now see that our wounded inner child was so fixated on the dm's being the one to give us the ultimate validation and approval that we were doing many things just to get that back in return. There was a price tag on our love - "I will be loving, nurturing, an angel as long as you validate me in return. I'll give you this, so you will give me that." We see how we'd placed conditions on it all. That our real motivation was not to give selfless love, but it was our inner child trying to get it's needs met. We were trying to also become that "perfect, victim, angel" that I mentioned earlier so we could feel innocent, deserving and like we were living up to family's or society's expectation of us as the feminine - meek, mild, pleasing, a good girl etc. We felt rejected by our twin flame when they literally could not heal us, feed our ego and fill in our voids because the whole point of the connection is to be mirrors to propel you both into your own healing and wholeness. But they also felt rejected by us because we were mostly just wanting our own needs met and we were blind to their needs or frankly not too bothered about what their true needs were. As the feminine, we often feel like the masculine owes us something. Again, I feel this is to do with the imbalances, the separation illusion created by the division of the sexes and all that's entailed over time. They could see that we weren't fully loving them, that we were being selfish (even if it was subconsciously) and that we were blinded by some unrealistic expectations that they could fill in our voids. What is True Love? Many of us have been humbled into realising that what we thought was being loving or what we thought love was, was heavily clouded by our wounds, by codependency. The truth is, neither of us were fully available for true love when the wounds are so strongly operating on a subconscious level. This may trigger some of you, but many of us df's realised we were being selfish in many ways, perhaps not completely, but very heavily. Our inner child felt it was the dm's duty to complete us, validate our ego's, jump through hoops to meet our unrealistic expectations. Yes, I know the dm's have also been clouded by their own wounds and were not some selfless angel either, but again, I am talking about the df from my own divine feminine view point right now. The divine masculines have also been selfish in many ways due to their unconscious wounds. We can see that the emotional unavailability was mutual, a mirror. We could not fully love the masculine until we first loved ourselves and the same goes for the masculine. We've been humbled into realising that we were chasing after a fantasy version of love, some elaborate illusion because we were afraid of the real thing, we were running away from the real thing. When we want a perfect fantasy (as a way to run away from reality) it will never happen because our souls crave real, true intimacy and union. Deep down, we knew it could never happen that way, we were simply biding our time, before we felt ready to step closer to true love and intimacy. It reminds me of Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade where they are trying to guess which chalice is the real Holy Grail. The bad guy picks the most elaborate, jewel encrusted grail and takes a sip from it thinking he's going to receive eternal life. Instead he rapidly decays into a skeleton, his own death. Indiana chooses the most modest and humble looking grail and does indeed receive immortality. Sometimes we are seduced by the fantasy because we are looking for a form of escapism. The humble, real love may not immediately satisfy our inner child's desire for wild theatrical validation to make up for all the years we felt we were overlooked and denied many things. Many of us were scared of true love because it seemed too ordinary, not enough fireworks. We felt we had to be the fireworks, to be the fantasy, to put on an elaborate show just to keep our twin flame's interest. It relates back to our childhood when we felt unnoticed, unspecial and rejected for being our normal selves. We wanted our twin flame to see us as special, as exciting, as a fantasy come to life! We thought that was the only way to receive and sustain the love. We wanted them to idolise us, put us on a pedestal, look up to us, be addicted to us. We thought they would reject us if we were just our normal selves, if we weren't trying to prove ourselves all the time. We couldn't see how we were wearing a mask, afraid to reveal our true vulnerable selves that had felt so rejected, hurt, betrayed and abused so many times by other people in the past. Although we wanted true, raw, authentic love, at the same time our inner child was petrified that in being our true selves we would bore our twin flame and cause them to abandon us. We felt we had to be something much "more" than anyone else because we didn't trust that we are more than good enough just the way we are. So there was an inner conflict, a block. One part of us wanted true union (which must come from within first - self love, knowing your worth, knowing you don't have to become someone else), but the other part of us (the inner child) felt unworthy and so put on a mask. That mask was blocking the union. You were not uniting with yourself, and could not unite with your twin. That mask wanted your twin to idolise you, put you on a pedestal, basically create a separation where he worshipped you, looked up to you, saw you as this whole "I want what I can't have" kind of thing. You'd created a fantasy. The trouble is, this manifested as your twin feeling unworthy of you (a mirror of you feeling unworthy of him) and likely your twin donned his own mask. You secretly saw him as the one on a pedestal above you (and felt you had to earn his approval) but you made out that you were the one on the pedestal so he would stay and seek your approval. A part of you did believed you were "above him" though because you were "being so loving and spiritually mature" but this is the illusion that's come crashing down, the realisation that doing things to get things in return is not as loving or angelic as you were fooling yourself to believe. Many of you have shed a tear for your twin flame's inner child when you realise you weren't fully having their best interest in mind as much as your own, by far. So the masculine was the catalyst to crumble all this bullshit, all the illusions, the holding on to fantasies that were blocking us from the real thing which is much better, much more grounded than the fantasy. I mean, that's why it wasn't grounding, it was too much of a castle in the sky. The divine masculine didn't reject you, they rejected your mask - they had to, it wasn't working, it was false and it was repelling you both. That "fantasy" version of you that you thought was gunna keep your dm stuck to your side was actually the thing that broke you apart (the illusions apart). You had to see that only being your true self is the way to go, you have to love your true self, you have to let your twin flame in to see the real you. Now, I'm not implying that suddenly physical unions are going to happen now the illusions have crumbled. We've all been woken up to see that we were unconsciously holding onto so much bullshit within ourselves and it's all needing time to fizzle away into beautiful truth. We are now at this stage of being inbetween the old and the new. The old is dissolving, deeper truth is emerging and then comes the aligning with that truth. Now is a time that we need to dedicate ourselves to our own inner union. This means to stop bullshitting yourself just to feed ego. It means being your own best friend, honouring your true self, comforting your inner child for all the times she felt lost, alone and unloved. We've all matured big time. Both the masculine and the feminine now look back at their old self from just a few months ago and we see how much we have shifted. We now see the inner child is no longer the current version of "me". We have shifted out of the wounded inner child (for the most part) and are now becoming the blossoming mature adult self. We are stronger, wiser, happier, freer. We are TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR OURSELVES, our happiness, our sense of meaning in life. We are no longer the lost child, we are our own loving parent. Would we be here right now if the masculine had not pissed us off enough to crumble all the bs? Nope. Tough love I guess. If my twin and I had just got together straight away with us catering to each other's every ego need, then we would not be having these profound inner insights and shifts into our true selves, into healing and self-union. Honestly, the things my twin forces out of me! :-D I definitely couldn't do it alone. This is the whole purpose of our incarnation here, to see beyond the illusion of separation. If our twin were a bandaid we would fail our mission, not only to ourselves but to those whom we are here to help into deeper ascension. So in many cases the masculine had to rip off that bandaid. It was painful, but we learned, we woke up! Often the masculine's will seemingly go backwards just to show us how we must move forward in our own life, we must go within. It helps us both keep moving forward into our truth. And so here we are, rising out of the illusions and grounding into our true selves, grounding the energies of union consciousness all around us. This is the biggest transformation I have witnessed within both my own connection and the twin flame collective. This is huge! If you would like further assistance on how to manifest a harmonious union, create healthy boundaries, how to surrender the right way, break through the twin flame glass ceiling, discover your life purpose and mission and so much more then check out my in depth videos ($11.11 each) here or simply purchase the entire collection below (save $36) Love and Light to you, Karen x Complete Twin Flame Video Teachings Collection - 12 Videos (Over 8 hours) **Save $36**The complete collection of 12 in depth twin flame teachings (over 8 hours of video). These videos cover all the important topics that need to be understood to align in harmonious union with your twin flame. These teachings have already helped hundreds of twins to reach deeper inner and outer alignment with their twin flame. Videos Included: 1) How to Manifest a Balanced Union We are often told that the divine masculine is the "sleeper" or "less awake" twin. We can start to see them in a dis-empowering light and focus on "what they are doing wrong". But whatever we focus on we manifest more of into our physical reality. In this video I show you why the masculine is the feminine's equal and how to start seeing him in an empowering way. Whatever you believe about your masculine he will start believing. 2) How to Get BOTH Your Needs Met The runner / chaser, hot/cold dynamic occurs when we try to love our twin in the way WE want to be loved. Misunderstandings and conflict arises when we don't understand the other's emotional needs or how to meet those needs. Once you understand and meet your Divine Masculine's emotional needs something truly remarkable happens! By the law of alignment he will naturally meet all your needs too! This is how the reflection works and all it takes is for one of you to understand what the other's core emotional needs are. 3) Breaking Through the Twin Flame Glass Ceiling Do you struggle to believe union will happen? Do you think your twin will never change? Does it all seem hopeless? I help you uncover the limiting beliefs that are manifesting as blocks and stagnation in your connection. Whatever you believe about your twin they will believe about themselves. Lets turn the tables into a positive outcome. 4) Surrendering vs. Visualising Union We are often told to surrender union over to the universe and not want union so badly, but then also told to keep visualising union. Which is best? 5) How to Have Bulletproof Fearless Faith When we are full of fear it blocks union because we are subconsciously telling the universe that we don't believe union will happen. Whatever we believe we manifest! This video shows you how to overcome your fears and have faith that your highest good is always unfolding. This allows union to flow into your life. 6) Discover Your Passionate Life Purpose and Mission I ask you a series of questions to really help you pinpoint your passions and desires to assist the planet in your own unique way. This is an exciting lesson that really opens you up to a multitude of possibilities! 7) How to Overcome Your Biggest Fears When we ignore our fears and push them to the back of our mind the energy remains in our auric field. We may try to seek assurance from our twin flame on the outside which only serves to push them away further. In this video I teach you how to face your biggest fears in order to clear them out and remove the blocks. Then you vibrate more love and trust which allows your twin flame to come closer through harmonious alignment. 8) How to Create Healthy Boundaries Healthy Boundaries not only bring you into deeper self-love and inner union, they also force your Twin to finally do the work that they have been putting off when you were over-giving. Healthy boundaries take away the enabling behaviours. You start loving and respecting yourself more and your twin flame starts reflecting that back to you. They also start to awaken more and love THEMSELVES more too. This ultimately kick-starts your union in moving forward in the right direction. 9) How to Surrender the RIGHT way What is surrendering exactly? In this video I help weed out the confusing misconceptions about what surrendering really is and I show you how to do it properly to align you with inner and outer union. 10) Should I Date Other People? Would dating another person help me clear important karma to help my twin flame union? Would dating another delay or prevent my twin flame union? Should I just wait around for my twin flame and be celibate forever? There's no single answer for everyone. Let me help you get really clear about what is right for YOU. 11) How to Overcome Intimacy Fears You may WANT union with your twin flame, but are you TRULY ready for it? When twins are in separation it's because deep down they fear deep emotional intimacy without even realising it. It's not surprising seeing as so many of us have been heartbroken and disappointed in love before. It even comes back to our childhood wounds. In this in depth video I teach you how to see what your intimacy fears are and how to heal them. When you remove your fears, your twins will be removed too. 12) Overcome the Fears of Expressing Love Are you afraid to express your feelings to your twin flame in case he runs away or completely ghosts you? Have you already experienced this with your twin? 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Are you afraid that your twin flame will leave you all alone and your life will be over? Does the idea of union never happening make your future look bleak? When twins need the union too much it's because they are looking outside of themselves for love, happiness, validation and fulfilment. It's causing you to stay stuck in an illusion that you are powerless to be happy and have peace unless someone else gives it to you. It's the illusion of being separate from the wholeness that you truly are within. Union really is about finding it within, seeing through the illusion and knowing you can have all those emotional needs met right now as long as you shift your mindset. We all carry around wounds from our childhood of rejection and abandonment. We feel so much pain because we buy into the illusion that it's personal. We believe as a child that it means we are unlovable and unworthy if our parents struggled to show us love. We didn't realise that they were struggling to show their love because they were carrying the very same wounds because THEY never felt fully loved and likely they didn't even realise it. When we believe it's all personal, when it really isn't, we subconsciously set off on a mission from a very young age to earn that love and approval from others. If someone judges us, looks at us funny, or is in a bad mood (that's nothing to do with us) we take it personally, we get paranoid that it's because we aren't good enough, aren't lovable enough, we've done something wrong etc. The subconscious soaks up millions of different encounters just like this and stores them as "evidence" of our unworthiness. In most cases, other's reactions were likely nothing to do with us at all, and they were simply in a bad mood that day or we totally misinterpreted that "funny look". We couldn't see that everyone is living through the same wounds, has the same insecurities and paranoia. Since having a child of my own I have a better understanding that my mother's frustrated reactions towards me and my brother when we were little didn't mean she didn't love us. With my own 5 year old son at times it's hard to not get frustrated when I have to repeat myself ten times just for him to get ready for school or put on his pyjamas at bedtime. It's no fun having to threaten to throw away a lollipop every time he doesn't do what he's told or hear your voice changing from nice mummy, into frustrated mummy, into angry mummy. From his eyes these kinds of instances of frustration and sighs from my end probably do resonate with him on some level to mean I don't love him in those moments but that's not the case at all. When I was young I remember my mum always seemed cross with us. At that age I didn't understand that frustration from mummy doesn't mean that she doesn't love me. But we store all these instances in our subconscious as proof that we are unlovable. So we go through life with this belief that we are unworthy and we subconsciously try to mold ourselves to be what we think others want us to be or expect from us. We try to keep them happy so they're happy with us. We can feel like we're being a "bad" person simply for being ourselves and no longer giving a fuck what other's think - we can feel as though we are being a complete rebel, rather than simply being true to ourselves. We could be a really considerate person and still feel like a rebel just for saying no when we need to. It triggers a wound where we remember the pain of being criticised by mummy or daddy for upsetting them. So how does this all relate to twin flame connections? Well, many twins still have this wound of rejection operating when they first meet their twin flame and many even still have the wound long into the connection. Because the connection is so deep and profound with our twin, then often we yearn for their approval very deeply. This causes us to start wearing masks or begin molding ourselves to be what we think the other person wants or expects from us. We ask ourselves, "How can I be their dream girl / guy? What do I need to do?" Then we start taking actions to become those things to them. But most often this is a projection from the childhood wound we carry from our relationship with our parents. It's really about our inner child seeking the love we didn't receive from mum and dad now from our twin. We try to be the perfect person that we think our parents would approve of and be that for our twin. The trouble is, when we do this we've lost our authenticity or are downright rejecting parts of our true nature to become something we're not. We don't feel good enough as we are so we try so hard to become the irresistible dream for our twin. We are seeking to be loved by them in all the ways our parents couldn't show us that love. Our inner child is still trying to heal that wound. But it's still the subconscious illusion that we aren't good enough or lovable enough unless someone else outside of ourselves shows us that we are. It's searching for a band aid but true healing comes from within. As long as we are in the separation consciousness ("I am separate from love (unlovable) unless someone outside of me shows me I am worthy") then we never reach INNER union. This is what our souls are here to experience - seeing beyond the illusion of "unworthiness" or "unlovableness" to reach the realisation that "I am lovable simply because I exist". We are not separate from God, we are all One, all equal parts in harmony. To very loosely quote an episode of Kung Fu Panda (I love them!!) a master of "musical kung fu" said something like, "Every music note is equally as important as the others. If one note is off then it ruins the whole melody. All must work in harmony and harmony comes when they know they are all equally as important as the others". Basically, there's no superiority or inferiority. So that means no one has authority over you to tell you if you are worthy or not, just like you have no authority to judge another as being worthy or unworthy as a person. But often we place our twin on a pedestal and totally base our sense of self worth on their reactions towards us. We mistakenly give them that authority over us and often it leads us to start bending over backwards becoming some sort of martyr as the inner child works very hard to seek intense approval. When we put another on a pedestal they will often gladly be up on that pedestal (other's treat us how we train them to treat us) and we start putting up with things from them that we shouldn't. They see how hard you are working to keep them by your side so they start taking you for granted. To be fair, that's human nature. If you would like help in implementing healthy boundaries that really shift you back into self-love then I have created a video here all about how to do it the right way. Both twin flames can really put the other on a pedestal and mold themselves to be what they think the other wants. But for today in this energy update I am going to talk about how the divine feminine's do this and how we are shifting out of this old karmic cycle and embracing our power. Embracing our power doesn't mean being brash or projecting our ego side onto our twin in any way. Embracing our power is simply being our true selves, knowing we are totally worthy and lovable simply as we are in the present moment and choosing to ditch fear and seeking approval outside of ourselves, especially from our twin flame. Embracing our power is all about loving ourselves and creating that love, wholeness and peace inside of ourselves no matter what's going on on the outside. Many of them didn't ask us to put them on a pedestal, we simply put them in that role right from the start. So in what ways does the divine feminine subconsciously diminish her feminine power to try and seek approval and love from her twin flame? She starts to dim her light, dim her truth etc because she feels the divine masculine can't keep up or isn't strong enough to "handle" her in her truth. She's afraid the masculine will be intimidated by her feminine strength and so she becomes docile and overly complying. She becomes the "nice girl" that mummy and daddy would be so proud of. She starts hiding her goddess energy and becomes a doormat instead. She puts her happiness, her self-worth and her future into his hands (again, he didn't ask for this, he's freaked out by this because you've set him up for failure! He literally cannot give to you or heal you in the ways you are seeking that only YOU can heal and give to yourself). She gives her power to him, she puts her life in his hands (as if he didn't have enough on his own plate to work through). She becomes dependent upon him and it becomes a heavy weight for him to shoulder. (And I'm not judging, we've been conditioned by the old paradigms to be like this!) At the same time she takes it upon herself to be his personal therapist, his guardian angel and many of us (if we are totally honest with ourselves) got a major ego boost from feeling so angelic and pure, "enlightened" and "selfless", even though in the back of our mind is our goal to get it all back in return - the APPROVAL, the LOVE we felt we've been denied our whole lives. Again, I'm NOT judging. It's our inner child crying out in pain for love. This wound is what distorts our behaviour to try and manipulate the situation and our twin into giving us what we want. Most of us don't do this in a devious way, but in a subconscious way, where the inner child becomes a chameleon changing itself to fit in with what we think our twin wants so they give us what we want in return. But the whole point of this journey is to love your own inner child, reach that union within yourself. Until you do that, there will always be a barrier between you and love because you simply can't see you already have access to it within your own heart. These aren't just words. Think about it! If you wear masks and have no backbone, your twin flame will be doing the same. They may be wearing a mask to try and impress you or others and have no backbone in their karmic situations. It all comes down to this illusion that other's can or have to determine our worth for us. It's all about recognising that it's just a karmic cycle that we are here to transcend. Only YOU can decide your worth. Other's can simply mirror back to you your own beliefs about yourself. If you aren't loving yourself, your twin won't love himself and he will also be wishy washy about you because you're dimming your truth, weakening the magnetic attraction. The masculine's aren't stupid. They can see straight through your "perfect angel" mask, they can see that you're being overly accommodating, putting yourself and your life on hold, putting up with nonsense etc because you don't trust they're strong enough to handle the real you, the beautiful mix of light and shadow, strength and vulnerability. All your twin has ever wanted and needed is for you to be yourself, to know you are worthy just the way you are. Isn't that what you've always wanted from them too? You're mirrors. He will distrust you as long as you are wearing this mask. They CAN handle you in your truth. You might be laughing to yourself and saying "No they can't", but what was the version of yourself that you were presenting to your twin flame? Was it REALLY the real you? Or was it the conditioned you, the fearful you, the masked you, the wounded inner child you? Was it the version of yourself that was bending over backwards or acting brashly because certain expectations weren't be met (no band aid was offered from your twin)? Did you really know the real you back then? Your twin flame can handle the real you. What they cannot handle (and what energetically repels you both) is the condition illusion of "you" or any false representation you think would make you more worthy but never does because your true worth lies within the your true you. The true you is both light and shadow, it's balanced, it's 3D and 5D. The true you knows your worth so you don't have to prove yourself and seek it outside of yourself. The true you doesn't need to be standoffish in the false sense of "power". If you're not being your true self and are operating instead from a place of fear, your twin will be doing the same. If you fear rejection big time, your twin will fear rejection big time too. If you're stuck in the illusion, your twin will be blinded to the truth also. The cycle will continue for as long as you cannot see beyond it. Often a Tower Moment Causes the Feminine to Take Back Her Power Many feminine's experienced a tower moment that really shook them to the core. All of these subconscious masks we had been wearing have been revealed to us. These false masks may have also included us molding ourselves to be what we thought the universe wanted us to become to be worthy of union. We can now see how we were simply trying too hard to become some kind of perfect ideal we had envisioned that we "needed to be" in order to align with union. We couldn't see that we weren't really being true to ourselves in many ways. The masculine's were stagnating because the feminine's were stagnating. Their higher self was waiting for us to wake up and realise our own worth and treat ourselves accordingly. This has been a huge shift in consciousness. We have woken up to one of the biggest illusions of separation and transcended it. Many of you have now simply stopped wearing the masks, stopped over-giving, stopped burning yourself out, stopped hiding your truth, stopped babying the masculine, stopped having condescending opinions of him / her, stopped fearing the loss of him. You're no longer worried that being the true you may cause you to lose him (definitely the masculine had this fear too!!) because you now realise you wouldn't want your twin if it meant you had to constantly bend over backwards or wear masks or live in fear all the time just to keep them there. If they really are your twin then your shift causes them to shift. As you release fear, so do they. As you see the truth, so do they - everything becomes clear and flows much more smoothly. Many of you had a very sobering moment during that tower obliteration. Any ego arrogance, superiority complex, or subconscious pattern of putting yourself or the other on a pedestal has crumbled. When you step into your truth you become humble, more down to earth (many are feeling turned off by some of the twin flame theory mumbo jumbo out there trying to turn you into that "perfect saint") and you're no longer attracted to the ego's desire for power (telling yourself that you ARE that saint), you're just okay with being you, naturally powerful in your authentic, humble truth, embracing both your soul purity and your imperfect humanness. For some of you the tower moment involved your twin flame's karmic partner. Personally in my own situation, I'm thankful for it. If this had never happened then I would never have transformed monumentally as I have done. I would still be the "twin flame chaser", I would still have the tendency to chase others in my life in general, I would still be seeking love and approval outside of myself, I would still be going round and round and round in circles like I had been for YEARS. My twin and the karmic have helped me massively, so for that I am grateful. I know it's woken my twin up to MANY things also these past few months. Karmics aren't your enemy , they're your ally. I'm sure the karmic's learned many things from this experience too. We Must Face Our Biggest Fears We must face our biggest fear of loss and become okay with the idea of a physical union never happening because it's this very fear of rejection that keeps us holding on so tight, stuck in illusion and karmic cycle. This cycle of imagined separation (which manifests in the physical) will go on for as long as you refuse to release your grip and heal yourself. If you feel you've been rejected by your twin IT'S NOT PERSONAL. It's all about energy - whatever vibe you're in you attract. If we remain in a place where being "abandoned" by our twin is our biggest fear then it will remain our biggest block to inner peace, to living from authenticity and ultimately union within and with our twin. I know it's been said many times before but it really is true that if you are doing things just to try and be in physical union with your twin flame, then this illusion of loss and separation is still operating within your psyche. You're still subconsciously holding onto the idea that happiness and love comes from outside of yourself. When you're truly okay with the idea of never "getting together" and you still feel at peace within, then you will be operating from authenticity, not fear, you will release the exhausting tendency to mold yourself or try and manipulate outcomes. You simply allow yourself and the connection to just "be". And if any kind of union with your twin is destined for you then this is the best place to be to have any kind of shot at it. But again, you must reach this state of being naturally, you cannot fake it to try and trick the universe into giving you what your ego wants. Your true self wants peace first and foremost, so that means giving up the desperate need to have anything or anyone outside of yourself to make you happy - that blocks your inner peace. Many of the feminine's are now like "que sera sera whatever will be will be". They're surrendering. Their allowing. They're just "being". And it feels GOOD. If you would like further assistance on how to face the fear of union never happening so the fear is no longer blocking you or keeping you locked in a karmic cycle then my powerful meditation "Fearless Faith: I Am Safe To Trust" can really help you. Fearless Faith: I AM Safe to Trust - Powerful Block Removal Activation MP3One of our biggest fears surrounding our twin flame connection is often the idea that union will never happen. This fear stirs up all sorts of painful emotions - abandonment, rejection, terror, heartbreak - no fun at all! To make matters worse, our fears make us act in all sorts of desperate ways that actually push away our twin flame - paranoia, jealousy, clingyness, bitterness etc. Our inner child is crying out to be loved in all the ways we felt abandoned and rejected in childhood. When we yearn so badly for outer validation from our twin to the point of feeling desperate, energetically this repels union because we mistakenly believe we NEED union in order to feel happy, whole, loved etc, but our soul is trying to teach us to first align with union within - taking responsibility for our own emotional wellbeing. In this meditation I take you to the heart of your fears. Instead of avoiding the fears by looking outside of yourself to your twin for validation and thus continuing to block the union, we will explore integrating these fears. Through allowing ourselves to get more comfortable with the possibility of life without union, with being happy and fulfilled regardless of what happens with our twin flame, we release the fears and allow the flow of our highest good to come into our lives. This opens us up to receiving union with our twin, if that is for our highest good. If not, then we have created a space to become fulfilled and happy within ourselves and our lives regardless, so it's a win-win situation! Through releasing the fears and knowing you will be okay, more than okay, if union didn't happen, you reach inner union. You know that you are always in control of your perspective of how you see and live your life and so you can be happy if you choose to be no matter what. This meditation activation removes the fears, brings you comfort and allows you to relax and align with inner union and outer union. 40 mins length For legal reasons I must state that this MP3 is for entertainment purposes only. MP3 Plays on iPhone, Android, PC, MP3 player etc. Instant download. Hey everyone! I am back again with another twin flame collective energy update. I hope you are all doing well. Powerful shifts are continuing to happen and it's all to do with self-love and self-empowerment both on the divine feminine and masculine sides. In truth we are one, so our one energy is shifting into higher and higher vibrations more in alignment with our true self. In the not so distant past many divine feminine's were subconsciously placing their sense of happiness on the masculine's shoulders, waiting for union to feel happy, to feel healed of the collective abandonment wound. This lead to a lot of energetic stagnation. As long as we were still in the fear-based illusion of separation and looking outside of self for approval and love, true union could never happen - union with self primarily then union with our twin flame (if that is what's destined). The karmic cycle was on repeat for a long time. We had to take a step back to really honour ourselves which is the key to self union. To face our biggest fears of abandonment by giving up the old paradigm of over-giving and micromanaging the connection and our dm. Many of us experienced a tower moment that really woke us up. We got tired of waiting, stagnating, procrastinating. We wanted to feel happy and at peace right now. We realised that we'd been pinning our happiness on the dm making a decision and as long as we were procrastinating in the fear of abandonment and not shifting ourselves, the dm was not shifting either, so he was not making a decision. So our happiness always seemed up in the air which lead to ongoing anxiety. We realised the error in our ways and went to work to put this right by focusing on ourselves and creating our own happiness and inner peace. We stopped stagnating and it is allowing the dm to also come out of stagnation. What message does spirit have for you?
So how is the divine masculine shifting? They are no longer content with searching outside of themselves for a short term sense of happiness, pride and approval. You see, us df's had been placing so much focus on giving to the masculine, giving outside of ourselves to unhealthy extremes. We are one, and so the dm was doing the same thing, giving outside of himself to karmic people to unhealthy extremes to seek validation and because of a fear of taking back his personal power. We were doing the same things - not putting our own needs first, not empowering ourselves. You may wonder why he wasn't putting all that focus on giving back to you his divine feminine and why he was giving to a karmic situation. Well, it's because both of you were stuck in the fear of loss, fear of empowerment and looking for love and approval from unavailable people (a mirror of our childhood wounds). Both were stuck in this illusion of looking outside of self for love and so neither of you were healed of that karma in order to give and receive from each other in a healthy way. You were not aligned to the high vibration of love for it to be able to work in your twin flame connection. Hence why there was a tower moment so the shifts could occur. The dm is shifting because he's realising it's worth doing the difficult and painful healing work in order to align with the real deal, his true inner peace, self-love, empowerment and his divine feminine. If you were always there for him no matter what then he felt he didn't have to do the inner work (and it was your way of avoiding doing the work too on some levels, i.e. facing your biggest fears of releasing control). The divine masculine has woken up and realised that it's no longer fulfilling to his soul to settle for the easy option because he realises it does not make him feel truly happy or proud. He realises he will only truly be happy and proud of himself when he faces his biggest fears and creates his own inner strength to create and succeed in aligning with his highest potential. You see, we all feel most fulfilled when we have to work for something - it creates movement, pulls us into healing, we feel like we deserve it when we've put effort into creating it. He's realising how he was procrastinating and it was only a slow diversion filled with pain and dissatisfaction. Sometimes we all need to take a diversion path to really understand that shortcuts simply don't cut it on a soul level. The divine feminine twin flame took a lot of action in the past because of a fear of loss if she didn't micromanage everything to hold it all together. This lead the the divine masculine taking very little action because they feared giving in case what they had to offer wasn't good enough (also fearing loss). But now the dynamic has shifted and the divine feminine is no longer giving too much because it left her feeling depleted and taken for granted, she realised it was an unhealthy imbalance. The divine masculine is now fearing that if he doesn't give enough then he will miss the boat with the divine feminine and also to create his true happiness, pride and success. These roles have reversed to balance both twins in their inner dm and df energies. When the time is right, and both have experienced each polarity of give and take, there is potential for this to balance out into equal give and take on each side. Both twins are doing the inner work more than ever before by learning to love themselves, create healthy boundaries with their twin and within karmic situations. This is a time of very powerful transformation. Keep living in the present moment, don't wait for this balance to come from your twin flame, make your own balance right now and all will be well no matter what happens. Keep up the good work! If you would like some words of comfort and direction from spirit during these intense shifts please check out the Personal Rumi Message option below. Client's are always telling me how accurate the message on the card is for them! They are $11.11 for a video recording approx 7 - 12 minutes long. *Please note, these are me simply reading the in depth channelled message from the card*. Love and Hugs, Karen x Personal Rumi Oracle Message (private video recording)**Please Read the description carefully**I will shuffle the cards whilst I tune into your energies and pull out a card just for you. I will then record the message in a private video for you. The cards go into a lot of detail and can really provide profound insights for you. The recorded message will last between 7 - 12 minutes. Please allow 3days for your private message video link to be emailed to you. **This is simply me reading the detailed description for the card so please don't send me questions. If you like, you can think of a question in your mind as you purchase the Personal Message and the card will answer your question. Must be 18 years or over and agree to terms and conditions. $11.11 USD A huge wave of divine feminine twin flames have recently received a powerful wake up call, monumental in fact, and this time they're listening and definitely applying the message. For many it took a tower moment to finally hear the call and to step up. Yes, you heard me, the feminine's needed to step up! We often hear about how the divine masculine's need to step up but many of us df's were blind to how we also needed to rise to the occasion in a different kind of way. Many of us worked so hard on healing many things but something more obvious needed to transform, yet we could not see it! Some of us may have *partially* seen what needed shifting, but the tower was the thing to give us the neon flashing sign which could not be ignored. So what was the message? What was the wake up call? To HONOUR ourselves, to know our worth, to implement healthy boundaries and to face our biggest fear of abandonment by SURRENDERING like never before! We've been called to realise that love and wholeness does not come from outside of ourselves and so it is time to stop trying so hard to chase down the love and the physical union to try and fix the abandonment wound from childhood (and beyond). Yes, we've heard this all before, but for many df's this truth is finally resonating on ALL LEVELS, not just on the intellectual level. We are finally putting this into action. This action to care for ourselves and stop looking for the dm to provide it all for us is how we are stepping up. We are releasing the codependency like never before. The twin flame divine feminine is starting to fully see that she is ALWAYS lovable just the way she is - she doesn't have to prove herself, bend over backwards, chase after the masculine or anyone for that matter. She doesn't need certain fear based expectations to be met to know her worth. For a very long time many of us were telling ourselves that we were already implementing this kind of self love but we weren't. Many twin flame divine feminines were waiting and trying to coax the masculine towards us, being overly giving in the name of "unconditional love" and quite frankly being a bit of a doormat. We were trying to constantly reassure the masculine, comfort him into his healing, make everything easier for him. But all it did was keep us dependent upon each other. The feminine was afraid to face her biggest fears of loss through letting go and the masculine was enabled to avoid his healing because the feminine was helping him feel comforted in all the karma he was going through so he felt he could just put up with it because you were always there to be a shoulder to cry on. For twin flames who have not been in contact, many divine feminine's were still in the belief that their happiness would only happen when they got into physical union with their divine masculine. This illusion of happiness and love being outside of self is exactly what blocks us from being able to manifest it on the outside. We MUST find it within first. Whatever vibration the feminine is in the masculine will mirror back to her in the physical. This is because the divine feminine is more aligned with the higher chakras and is the "visionary", she creates a concept in her mind, a belief and the masculine, aligned more with the lower chakras, is the energy that grounds that concept or belief in the physical. So whatever vibration / perception / illusion / truth the df is aligned with, the masculine will mirror and ground that. So if you are chasing because you are still caught up in the illusion that you must find the love outside of yourself to complete you, the underlying belief is that you are separated from love, that you are unlovable until the masculine proves to you his love etc. You believe you are powerless and unlovable and so the masculine mirrors that belief back to you and remains at a distance, unable to align with you. He is grounding your belief. He's the divine mirror to show you what vibration you're in. A History of ChasingMany divine feminines have a past history of this type of approval seeking and it can feel like it comes "out of nowhere". But really this is a deep ancestral pattern passed down to us through our DNA. We have been taught over many centuries to be caretakers and many times the divine masculine did not return home after going off to battle. So a fear of loss became the undercurrent of our feelings towards the dm and masculine's in general. But this goes even deeper still. The fear of loss can be traced back to when our mother gave birth to us and suddenly we were "separate" from our safety and source of love and comfort. We are always seeking that comfort, that home outside of ourselves. Further still, we have a fear of loss and a belief in separation because when we incarnate we experience amnesia and so feel all alone when deep in the soul we are longing for Home, the higher realms. It feels very scary and lonely on a deep unconscious level. And so we try to cling to whatever or whomever brings us a feeling of deep intimacy, love and home. Both the df and dm feel these fears and the longing to feel connected again, a sense of deep belonging. But what I also feel has happened over many, many centuries is that the men went off to war, to hunt and gather food etc and women for the most part stayed home or near the home. The men were off in the world busy taking action to protect and provide for their family and the women were home, tending to the children and waiting for the man to return. Women depended on the men for their survival. So they had a deep fear the man wouldn't come home. Does this not have a similar parallel to current day in some ways? The men are off somewhere focusing on other things and the women are left waiting for him to return? In many cases the women do many, many things to try and get the man to return. This common twin flame scenario leads many divine feminines to put themselves in a position of waiting. For a long time we may not realise it was our own choice to put ourselves in this position. The fear of loss is so real as it's coming from our DNA and soul memory that it just seems like the most natural thing to do in the beginning. Deep down our inner child feels a sense of home with our dm and so that part of us believes he is the one to heal our childhood wound of abandonment. This often stems from (in this lifetime at least) times when we felt we were not loved, truly seen, appreciated, accepted etc by our parents for who we truly are at a young age. We tried to be the "good girl" to get the love, we complied with what we thought our parent's would deem acceptable, we repressed ourselves, putting their needs before our own in order to earn their love and approval. At such a young age this was our instinct for survival so we learned to be overly accommodating to the point of self-repression all in the name of seeking love, safety and validation externally. This was natural at that age. The Inner Child Seeks a Substitute Parent The inner child carries around these wounds and looks for a substitute "parent" to love them in order to "fix" the wound. So upon meeting the twin flame the inner child believes the divine masculine (and vice versa) is the one to heal this wound within self because the connection, the love runs so deep. All unresolved wounds from our relationship with our parents become projected into our twin flame connection. We believe on some deep subconscious level that it's his or her responsibility to love us in the way our parents didn't. We start loving the dm in all the ways we want to be loved in return, the ways we wished our parent's loved us. But this is all coming from a deep wound of abandonment and a deep belief that we can only feel whole and worthy if someone else can show us this kind of intense approval. In truth, all the ways in which we want to be loved by another are all the ways we need to give love to ourselves. The Important Lesson We Came Here to Master Our souls incarnate here to learn that we are always loved, that we always ARE love, that we are ONE even when everything appears separate in the 3D realm. We are here to experience the pain of this illusion and then realise that it is indeed an illusion. Through awakening and transcending the illusion we help raise the planet into the 5D and beyond, coming out of the separation illusion into unity consciousness. A major part of ending this illusion cycle involves surrendering and giving up trying so hard to earn love outside of self by understanding that we are already lovable just as we are and we don't need external approval. It involves placing trust in the universe so you can loosen your grip on chasing love and focus on the realisation that you are already lovable, always have been and always will be. Surrender means to let go of the idea that we as the divine feminine's have to micromanage the connection and even our dm! We need to stop trying to control everything because of our fear of loss if we were to simply stop putting in most of, if not, all of the work! When we try to do everything it indicates our deep lack of faith in the universe to love us and provide for us. We feel separated from the universe's love and so we try to take on the universe's role and MAKE everything happen ourselves. This is IMPOSSIBLE because our perception and expectations are way too limited. Only the universe and our soul family can see the bigger picture in order to work divine order to bring about the highest possible outcome. If you are struggling to trust in the universe because you feel a lot of pain and maybe even betrayed by the divine, as if the divine has been preventing you from being happy and receiving love then I have created a powerful healing activation called "I Believe, I Receive: Removing Blocks to Receive Love" which really helps you to see how the universe has been helping you reach your highest good all along, even though it didn't feel like it at the time. This activation is a real eye-opener and can really get you back to trusting which releases a huge weight off your shoulders and allows you to "get out of your own way" and let love manifest in. Details for this powerful activation can be found here. So How Exactly does the Divine Masculine Send the Wake Up Call When we refuse to surrender, when we resist facing that huge fear to stop micromanaging because we aren't trusting the universe or our worth, we are simply getting in our own way and slowing everything down. There comes a point where the universe has to step in because we are stagnating too much. And what's the best way to make us wake up, when we are refusing to listen to *them* because we are so focused on the divine masculine? By using the dm as the messenger! THAT will make us sit up and pay attention! This is exactly when a tower moment happens. In most cases it's something the divine masculine does, or doesn't do, that triggers the tower to come crashing down, that tower, of course, being some kind of false perception or expectation that he/she would be the one to heal our core wound. Totally missing the point in this way and therefore continuing to look in the wrong direction was causing us to get stuck in the illusion cycle. The universe couldn't keep allowing this to go on and on and on. Both twins were waiting... and waiting... and waiting some more. There was a sense that change was coming, really positive change - we all felt it for many months - HUGE shifts coming. We've all known that shifts within had to be made in order for the shifts to happen on the outside too, but we couldn't see what we needed to change. Many of us had attached expectations to what those changes would be and so we were focusing so much on that, getting tunnel vision, trying to force things. We felt kind of helpless, thinking it was down to the masculine, the masculine felt it was out of their hands because in truth, their spirit was waiting for the feminine to wake up and realise she needs to love herself and not base her sense of self-worth on what the masculine is or isn't doing. He was never going to do what your ego wanted, it would have defeated the whole point of this growth. His purpose has been to deny your ego what it wants so you are forced to finally give up the ego expectation out of total burnout and frustration and do the only thing you can do, the only thing you can control - giving YOURSELF the love. But for a long time we couldn't comprehend that, our inner child was so fixated on getting the ultimate love and approval outside of self. And so we were waiting... and waiting. Yet life cannot wait, change cannot be stifled forever and so the lightning struck and then it was done in a blink of an eye! Change!! At first it appeared to be change for the worst. The ego could not cope with the shattering of our old perceptions and expectations of how the connection was *meant* to unfold in our eyes. Boom! Those were gone! But when the dust settled we could see that the changes were indeed for the better. It showed us how we'd been holding on too tightly and standing in our own way. The masculine's higher self simply knew the old way was not working. They could feel the intense pressure building with the divine feminine's expectations to force a square peg through a round hole. It was never gunna happen like that. The wound of separation and looking outside of self (to dm) for wholeness and healing was still operating (and still a faulty way of going about finding wholeness). So when push came to shove, the masculine was shoved away energetically. It could not be any other way. Union could not happen when the old paradigm was still operating. The tower had to happen for the feminine's to receive the biggest wake up call! This is a major shift to help the whole collective! It's no coincidence that many dfs are going through this shift at the same time. The masculine truly is the divine messenger. They trigger our ego big time and often we are left feeling foolish - we are humiliated at the stark truth we now can see so clearly, which is, just how desperate we were acting! Now don't get offended, I don't mean that in an insulting way, I mean it in a sense where your fears from the old DNA program were so strong that you were acting on them blindly rather than feeling calm and at peace and seeing intuitively and following intuition, having trust and allowing things to unfold in a higher vibration. You Needed to get PISSED - THAT Would Put a Fire Under Your Ass! To the degree in which your ego needed to be fucked off in order for you to finally stop the pattern of chasing love outside of self is just how much your twin would have fucked you off in that tower moment. You needed to get so PISSED in order to be triggered into remembering all the times in the past (with other people too) where you put them first (and your own needs last) and they ended up mistreating you or taking you for granted. You needed something to happen to make you feel "Damn! I deserve better than that!" It needed to be dramatic to make you wake up and know your worth and see how you'd been compromising yourself too much for too long. Because until you know your own worth, no one else (including twinny) will see it either. No one will be able to love or appreciate you fully until you love and appreciate yourself fully. Fear and desperation is a belief that you are separate from love and therefore must chase it down and grab a hold of it so tightly so it cannot get away from you. Trouble is, this energy means love doesn't stand a chance of fully aligning with you in the first place. The masculine will have done something that triggered your ego so badly that it went into complete uncertainty of union ever happening. You thought "I better get busy in loving myself and my life coz union might never happen!" This is a GOOD thing because it made you realise how you'd been placing all your eggs in the union basket, in the future and not in the present moment. It made you realise you had become ungrounded. This is how fear helps us sometimes! It made us balance our inner knowing with logic!! It helped you wake up and smell the coffee. At first the ego would have been telling you "You're such a fool to believe in this twin flame nonsense!" You got busy with life quick to try and ease the fear of feeling like the twin flame thing had totally crumbled in that tower moment. This helped you feel more at peace, you became more comfortable accepting perhaps union might not happen. You knew you would be ok if that was the case - YOU WERE FACING YOUR BIGGEST FEARS OF LOSS! and finally working on yourself and life *Woop!* After the ego settled, intuition came back, the inner knowing that yes this IS your twin. You could see why the tower had to happen like this. But you'd learnt some really VITAL lessons in this process! To love yourself, to get busy living your life to the full right now, to BALANCE yourself with intuition AND logic, to live in the present moment, to accept whatever happens will happen, to stop chasing love outside of yourself, to stop living for the future, to implement healthy boundaries and learn to say no to things that don't feel right for you, to FACE YOUR BIGGEST FEARS of surrendering! We are often told to believe, believe, believe in union and it will manifest. Now let me add something here: Please believe the highest possible good will happen between your twin and yourself which *may* lead to a physical union down the road. Please DON'T take this idea of having faith to the extreme where you think that nothing else matters because union's gunna happen no matter what so I don't have to be happy in myself or other areas of my life, i.e. don't place your whole life in the "twin flame union" basket! That's guaranteeing that it won't happen, because you are placing happiness outside of yourself, so you will never truly be happy, because you will always feel shaky that the "happiness" won't always be there forever if the other person or external circumstances change or disappear. Not Just a Bumper StickerThis "love yourself first" isn't just a bumper sticker. Yes, it is all stuff we've heard before (many times), but many of us were still not applying it because we were unconscious to how much we were being a martyr to try and get that childhood (and beyond) abandonment wound patched up by our twin. It cannot happen like that! It's all about dissolving codependency by seeing the separation is an illusion in the first place. So... now we need to talk about some very important things. How can we step up as the divine feminine in order to love ourselves more? What actions do we need to take? Well first we need to surrender. How do we do that exactly? Let me share with you some tips... How to Surrender⦁ Get OK with the idea of union not happening. We need to know we can be and will be happy and fulfilled even without a union. This will allow us to release the fear of loss and it will take off the pressure and allow things to unfold naturally. I have created a powerful activation meditation called "Fearless Faith: I AM Safe To Trust" designed to help you face your biggest fear of loss and of union never happening. Facing this fear will dissolve it and free you to allow the love it. Details of this powerful activation can be found here. ⦁ Trust the universe is always trying to bring you your highest good if only you allow them too! (The "I Believe, I Receive: Removing Blocks to Receive Love activation helps tremendously with this) ⦁ Put up healthy boundaries. Fear causes you to NOT implement healthy boundaries. You put up with too much because you still believe that you need your dm to stay and heal your abandonment wounds. But when we have no boundaries we are basically telling our twin flame that we will stick around no matter what and it enables them to avoid doing their healing work too. ⦁ Don't see the idea of not uniting to mean the universe doesn't love you, to mean that you are unlovable. The whole point is to realise that seeking this kind of external validation is causing you to feel stuck in unhappiness and wounding. ⦁ Many of you probably have a pattern of chasing other men or love outside of yourself in the past (I certainly did). Every time chasing fails, the ego wants to resolve that "failure" by continuing to do the same thing (chasing) and get the desired result. But this ego stubbornness is cutting you off from your own happiness. The ego wants to feel right, but you must choose to want to be happy. Chasing is the wrong thing to do, you will never "win" like the ego wants and so potentially you will just keep repeating this cycle and keep feeling "rejected". Your soul is simply waiting for you to wake up and realise this is an EGO pattern. The ego thinks the "rejection" is real, the soul knows it's just a faulty program and is waiting for you to rise above it. See it more as a lesson, not as trying to have a "victory" through continuously chasing to please the ego. ⦁ Know that unconditional love does not mean putting yourself on the line to be hurt over and over because you're trying to be some kind of saint to become "worthy" of love or prove to your twin how deserving you are. You don't have to prove anything. You are worthy simply because you exist. ⦁ Focus on what brings you meaning OUTSIDE of the connection. What are your passions? What things did you used to enjoy doing that you put on a backburner? ⦁ Become receptive, learn to receive rather than giving all the time. Be open to receiving your twin when they are ready to come forward. Give them the space to heal. When you try and force things before either of you are ready, most of their energy will be taken up by trying to keep you at arms length because it's just not the right time. That energy spent protecting their personal space is distracting them from having the time and space to really focus on their healing. Chasing is also distracting you from your healing. When the feminine tries to give the dm all the answers and tries to direct him all the time he has no time to really reflect and come to these conclusions all by himself, hence he stays in a state of confusion. You will likely need to implement healthy boundaries in your connection also. How to Know if You Need to Put Up Healthy Boundaries: ⦁ Are you often left feeling angry by something your twin flame did? ⦁ Deep down is the anger you feel directed at yourself for having no backbone? ⦁ Do you feel like you are disrespecting yourself by putting up with certain things from your twin but just "take it" and keep being there and over-giving unconditionally just waiting for him to change? ⦁ Are you being a martyr and just holding out for the future? ⦁ Do you feel angry that your twin has put you in a position where deep down you know you need to put up a boundary but are too scared to? Are you angry that he's / she's done something that triggers that uncomfortable feeling where you know you're not honouring yourself by allowing that? ⦁ Do you just wish your twin flame was perfect and never put you in this awkward position in the first place (which triggers the feeling that you are not honouring yourself)? ⦁ Are you avoiding facing your biggest fear of implementing healthy boundaries because of a fear that in doing so potentially your connection will just fall away coz you're no longer over-giving and just wish he would change instead? If so, then you are still in the fear vibration and you are stagnating in it. If you aren't willing to face your own fears, your dm won't be willing to face his either and you will keep going in circles with nothing changing (unless of course the universe has to step in a create a painful tower moment to get you moving!) Okay, So How Do You Implement Healthy Boundaries? ⦁ If something makes you feel like you would be disrespecting yourself for accepting or putting up with it back off and politely explain that you cannot be near them when they are behaving a certain way. ⦁ Try to calm yourself and speak honestly from a place of integrity. Try not to jump in guns blazing when your ego is triggered. ⦁ Try not to blame them and make out they are responsible for your feelings. Act with dignity and take responsibility for your own feelings by stepping back and focusing on creating your own inner joy. ⦁ Once you've put up a healthy boundary don't give in just because you miss them or you miss the way things were (the dysfunctional dynamic). If they truly are your twin then deep down they want the same as you - to be happy, to have a healthy functioning union, and so don't keep enabling this unhealthy dynamic. Your twin can only heal when you shift also, when you heal. Enabling keeps both of you stuck in the fear and dysfunction. Facing your fear by implementing boundaries makes them face their fears too if they want to continue growing. ⦁ Don't just believe in words alone. Yes, your twin flame may really mean what he /she says, but they may not be ready to implement those words into actions, and so give them the time and space to heal on their own as you focus on your own life and healing too. ⦁ Don't wait around and pine for them. Go out and live your life!! Waiting = stagnation of your energies = stagnation of the potential growth of yourselves and your connection. Often this time of physical "separation" (time for healing, soul exploration etc) is a time divinely slotted in for you to do your mission work, to get the word out there to help others! ⦁ Let go of the fear of losing them! Fear will only make you anxious all the time and will cause you to act from a place of fear which is more likely to cause you to go back to the chasing tendencies! Fear only stifles you and brings you down. If the fear of loss is not tackled then even if you did come into union you would still fear losing them (but union cannot happen if the fear is so intense). Have faith that the universe is always supporting you. I'm not saying these are easy steps to take. For a while you biggest fears of loss will be triggered big time. You believed for so long that micromanaging or babying your masculine was the glue holding everything together! Obviously, you will fear losing them when you stop doing most of or all of the work. But this is how you face your biggest fears and heal them. This is how you get busy in your own life and truly surrender, accepting that whatever will happen will happen. No more putting all your eggs in the twin flame basket. You are becoming much more self-reliant for your own love, joy and deep meaning. If this truly is your twin then they will heal because as you raise your vibration they will be drawn into the higher vibration too to start healing themselves. Superiority ComplexGet out of the superiority illusion too. The masculine is just as powerful and awakened as the feminine. Let him do his own work! Don't try and do it all for him - that NEVER works! The dm has been waiting so long for the feminine to heal this old cycle, to shift so he can too!! You see, you have both been experiencing the same fears and blocks - the fear of loss, of abandonment, of rejection. You've both been holding on too tightly to the dysfunctional dynamic between you because at least, you thought, you had each other in *some* way. The fem was afraid to stop micromanaging and "keeping it alive" and the dm was afraid to step closer in case it shattered the df's "fantasy" version of him and union and she abandoned him. How The Masculine is ShiftingSo as the feminine honours herself, faces the fear of loss by handing it over to god and giving the dm the space to do his inner work too, it makes the dm feel her distancing herself from him. This triggers his fears of loss too, so both are forced to do the INNER work to make sure that happiness and emotional stability come from within and not from relying on each other. When union is no longer a life or death situation because we are happy within ourselves and our own lives outside of the connection, when we no longer feel that union *has* to happen or else our life is over, then the fear is dissolved and we can trust more, open our hearts and go with the flow. We are no longer threatened by "loss" because we now know it wouldn't be personal, it wouldn't mean we are unlovable if things didn't work out. We would simply know the universe had other plans for our soul growth. By giving up the tendency to think it's a rejection and that it's personal we are no longer afraid of that pain and so can more easily go with the flow and receive love. These shifts are highly significant and are creating enormous change in the collective to uplift our consciousness beyond the illusion of separation. Old paradigms that kept us feeling small and powerless are being broken down and we are all stepping into our power. This is HUGE! I would like to take the time here to thank my twin flame for being the divine messenger of this vitally important collective lesson!! Truly, he is a sweety and I just know that he's set me deeper onto my path to get this message out there to the collective. So to my twin, thank you! If you would like to understand more deeply what your personal blocks are and what's going on in your twin flame connection then I am offering 50% OFF 15 minute readings for the next 48 hours only (offer ending Monday). After Monday I will close bookings in order concentrate on working on these readings for you all. **Please allow up to 30 days to receive your reading. You can book your reading below: Love to you on your journey, Karen x An overview of what's going on in your connection and what needs healing. Advice on how to heal any imbalances to restore harmony within yourself and your connection. Loving guidance and support from your spirit guides. It's all happening for twin flames! Lots of scary Tower moments are occurring for many to do with releasing karma and relationships that no longer serve. Karmic ties are being broken and basically anything that has not been serving us or situations where we were repressing our truth to keep the peace is coming up and it can be pretty dramatic! Twins are mirroring each other with this dramatic purging of the old. Many of you could see all too clearly the karmic relationships and situations your divine masculine would be better extracting himself from. But now many of you are experiencing shocking revelations of the karmic people you need to release from your own life that you had no idea you needed to release or just how toxic the dynamic between you was! The masculine's work to free himself is helping free the feminine too and vice versa. Isn't the mirroring effect crazy sometimes! This shocking experience happened to me this weekend just gone (on my birthday of all days!) with a friend of 20+ years and I was totally floored - did not see it coming at all! Yet straight after the tower came crashing down I could see all too clearly how I had been putting up with some pretty poor behaviour and not fully recognising that. I could see just how much I had been repressing my truth and walking on eggshells to keep the peace and hold onto someone who wasn't all that good for me in many ways. She had many good attributes of a friend but there were always things she would say that would set off red flags on a deep level or feel very hurtful to me but I would always overlook them because I had known her for so long and I considered her a long term friend. I chalked it up to her just being a little wacky and not having tactful social or communication skills because she was like this with all of her friends. But after the tower moment I realised that no, she was just downright rude and hurtful at times. We'd been drifting apart for a while but were still holding on (like many karmic situations).This was the tower moment to really break us apart, to stop the stagnant cycle. Although I was shocked it all felt so divinely timed. It's funny how we can blindfold ourselves to the fact that certain people or situations are not good for us or are no longer aligned with us until the universe steps in and FORCES us to see it, basically when we've been ignoring our intuition for so long. It feels like a slap around the face in the moment. I had no conscious idea that I needed to release this person and thought it was just my twin who needed to release certain people and love himself more in doing so, but could not see the reflection in myself at all. I HAD NO IDEA!! And I guess that means it's pretty unclear to the masculine's for a long time too, but because when we look at their situation from the outside we see it so clearly and we don't understand why they can't see it at all. All the classic examples we hear about the masculine's needing to honour themselves, know their worth, speak up etc I suddenly realised were my own issues too. This truth was hiding in my subconscious level. The kind of things that someone says or does that makes you feel uneasy or disrespected but you brush it under the carpet and make excuses for their behaviour. You think it's "only a little comment" here or there and so you disrespect yourself just to keep them there because they do have many good qualities also. Then things never get said and it just builds and builds until the universe has to intervene and cause a tower moment to force the change. Many of you will be experiencing similar situations if you aren't already. Twins are really going through the mill right now! When it was the eclipse season major tower moments were happening between the twins and now it's happening within karmic situations. It's helping us to break down the things which were keeping us stuck in energetic limbo. It's all about understanding we need to create healthy boundaries and actually honouring ourselves and putting those boundaries in place. Many have already shifted since the eclipses and so this is the knock-on effect of the internal change showing up on the outside. This is all NEEDED for us to move into the next stages. But I feel for you if you are going through this! It's shocking and hurtful to begin with, but trust in your heart that whatever dramatic changes are occurring are so we can rebuild and have a fresh start living in our truth and love. It's tearing down our comfort zones but it's all a blessing in disguise. It's a 9 year after all which is about wrapping things up for new beginnings. HUGE shifts are happening! Buckle up! If you would like some words of comfort from spirit during these difficult times please check out the Personal Rumi Message option below. Client's are always telling me how accurate the message on the card is for them! They are $11.11 for a video recording approx 7 - 12 minutes long. *Please note, these are me simply reading the in depth channelled message from the card*. Love and Hugs, Karen x Personal Rumi Oracle Message (private video recording)**Please Read the description carefully**I will shuffle the cards whilst I tune into your energies and pull out a card just for you. I will then record the message in a private video for you. The cards go into a lot of detail and can really provide profound insights for you. The recorded message will last between 7 - 12 minutes. Please allow 3days for your private message video link to be emailed to you. **This is simply me reading the detailed description for the card so please don't send me questions. If you like, you can think of a question in your mind as you purchase the Personal Message and the card will answer your question. Must be 18 years or over and agree to terms and conditions. $11.11 USD Hey everyone! I hope you are doing good and have survived the powerful eclipse season. A lot has been shaken up! I apologise for my long absence - I have been away for a few weeks on holiday and decided I needed to take a break from doing readings and energy reports. Today I have decided to use runes for the reading. Divine Masculine's EnergiesAnsuz - "God Force" The divine masculine is focusing more on his intuition and divine guidance than ever before. Before and over the eclipse season many fears and illusions came up for them and so some may have retreated back into their comfort zone after a time of coming forward into their truth. They likely went back to avoiding their intuition as the tension to take a leap of faith grew and grew. In a "moment of madness" (as spirit is putting it) they retreated and appeared to go backwards in their healing. But in truth, there was a divine plan to it all. The masculine had to orchestrate a tower moment for them both, to help him see how ignoring his intuition costs him dearly, and to help the divine feminine see how much she was over-giving to subconsciously try and hold on too tightly to the masculine. Since the beginning of their connection both have been fearing the loss of each other and so the masculine withdrew from a fear of rejection and the feminine realised that they had over-given from a fear of rejection also. These are major wounds that must be faced. The rune Anzus shows the masculine has learned important lessons from recent regrets and is now feeling the power and guidance to look at the bigger picture and do the inner work on a more dedicated level. Clarity has come to him as he listens more willingly to the divine guidance. Laguz Reversed - "Water" reversed In the reversed position this is a rune all about fantasy and avoidance. Many masculines (and feminines!) have a fear of emotional intimacy and so both have been holding onto "the dream" of union but been pushing away the actual full union in their own mirrored ways due to a fear of destruction if they tried to make it work in the physical and it didn't. Again, it goes back to the runner / chaser dynamic. Which comes, first, the chicken or the egg? Truth is, both are so fearful that they push it away. This fear has lead to stagnation. Both twins have "put up with" the status quo either with each other or with others just to try and keep things the same for the fear that change will only bring loss. But deep in their hearts, they deeply yearn for the union on all levels, to be free in true love. And so this fantasising has worked like visualisation, manifesting the change their souls desire. Hence a tower moment has occurred for many twins around the eclipse season. The tower in the tarot is obliterated by a lightning strike. Lightning as you know is caused by the friction of hot air meeting cold air. This is the same as the true desires being met with the fears (to run from those desires) - it's two opposing forces. When the scale is about to be tipped in favour of the soul's true desires (over the fears) then the love and fear meet in the middle and it creates an explosive force of change. As you know, the Tower is a blessing in disguise. So the Laguz rune literally means "Water". Water is the most powerful element on Earth. So Love is like water - it breaks through mountains, it CAN be contained but it creates so much pressure - a dam building up - if we try to control it's natural flow. The masculine fears his bottled up emotions coming out like releasing the dam. They are taught by society to control it, direct it with their will. The twin union is basically asking them to release control and go against everything they have been taught for eons of lifetimes. The feminine is equally afraid to lose this control in her own way, to allow the natural unfoldment of the love to happen in divine timing. When one twin tries to take control, the other will do so in the opposite way. It only creates a dam, a separation. Raidho - "Chariot" Raidho is all about movement, action and positive change. Certain walls of the dam have been released within the masculine. But it's a process and so it won't happen all at once. But he definitely felt that in a moment of ignoring intuition more walls were put up or more restrictions or obstacles have come up all around him and that has creating more pressure. He is now following his inner compass much more than before, seeing the balance between light and shadow and feeling much stronger as a result. He is taking more of a leadership role in his life, determining his own direction through the careful blend of intuition and logic. Eihwaz - "Yew Tree" The yew tree is all about evergreen strength that withstands all kinds of harsh environments. They even grow berries in the winter to show that new life can be born in really tough times. The masculine is now in a mental space of steadfast refusal to succumb to the opposition and hardship of what he is facing. A major and necessary life change is occurring but they are still struggling with uncertainty. A significant confrontation with one's inner fears and innermost insecurities is occurring and will continue to as through the trials of change come growth and spiritual expansion. It's an ongoing process for the masculine to come out of his comfort zone (just as it is for the feminine!) Tiwaz - "Success in Battle" The masculine is heading towards justice, sacrifice and victory. It's going to be a struggle for him to achieve what he wants (freedom, union) but it's his soul calling and he's realised that resistance creates more pain. He is now in a place of making much more sound judgement of the connection and any karma he is clearing. Both twins are battling their old ways (which may have lead them to battle each other), their conditioned responses to such deep love and the fears it brings up. At first it's natural to try and take control of the situation the way we initially believe will make us feel more secure (conditioned responses) and there will be times when both twins resist surrendering and facing the fear of giving up any sense of control. Karma is being cleared, boundaries are being set and there is powerful forward motion. This is a time of a major spiritual breakthrough for the dm. Inguz - "Seed" A time of gestation is happening for the masculine where he is going inwards as positive change is growing. A major shift has caused the seed to be planted on fertile soil, just like a compost heap breaks down the old to fertilise new life - you have to go through some shit to come out the other side! This is like the Hermit card - going inwards to heal and seek the light, going on his own path of his soul. Some tower moments have occurred if some of the feminine's have tried to keep digging up that seed to see if it's growing (trying to get the masculine to come out of his hermit mode before he's found his inner direction). Some masculine's may have contributed to this by implying they were more grown that what they are because they feared loosing you if you got tired of waiting. But the tower moment has helped the feminine to stop waiting which is a very good thing. What message does spirit have for you?
Divine Feminine EnergyHagalaz - "Hail" So this IS the rune which to me represents the Tower card in the tarot! The divine feminine has gone through a crisis within the connection which has created a lot of (positive) disruption. It was that divine intervention, or the lightning strike to spark the positive shift in tipping the scales. They may be facing many breakdowns of illusions which can seem catastrophic at first glance. Some of you may still being going through this pain. It may have created conflicts in yourselves and with your divine masculine. Some of you have likely been majorly reassessing your connection altogether. Your thoughts are all over the place, analysing this and that to try and figure out what is real and what is illusion. This is the dreaded "Have I been fooling myself this whole time?" moment. Some are in fact realising it really wasn't their twin, others of you, your connection is about to force you so much more deeper into yourself and facing your fears than you even knew was possible. Old foundations that were a comfort zone and not serving yourself or your connection have dramatically fallen away! It can be a very scary time. A lot of ego can come in because you feel like the rug of your comfort zone has been completely pulled from beneath you. Many of you didn't see it coming at all and it totally took you off guard! Whatever the outcome, it's a blessing in disguise. If it's not your twin then the universe is setting you free to align with another path which is for your highest good, if your twin is resisting doing the work, then again, the universe is liberating you from "waiting around" and twiddling your thumbs! And if the tower moment has happened to bring you and your twin into deeper union then that is good news indeed. Many of you are being forced to release the outcome and just BE PRESENT in the NOW. What will make you happy right now? Whatever is the meaning for your individual situation, things had to be shaken up for change to happen! "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Einstein Many twins had got into a rut and were simply waiting for everything to shift and work out. Many weren't aware or willing to release their own version of control and yet sat in separation longing for each other from afar. Ehwaz - "Horse" The feminine is also stepping into much more movement in her life. This is a great thing! Movement dissolves stagnation and creates positive shifts. Just be careful to really go inwards and ask yourself what will make you TRULY happy, not just some ego-driven hastiness or rebelliousness out of frustration or pain. You need to carefully handle your situation like gently handling the horse. Through the storms of pain and ego, you may catch glimpses of truth and hope, but then again they may get lost by the fears just as quickly. But in those times of listening to your heart (yes it's hard when it's broken), you can see the truth of your connection and path. Deep down you know you are working as a team with the masculine to assist each other in deep soul growth. The DM had the Chariot Rune and you have the Horse - you go together. Horses are about friendship and loyalty and some of you are realising this amongst the rubble of your expectations. Speedy shifts are now occurring as you take charge of what you can - your own present moment to feel free and happy. Uruz - "Power" (Neither upright nor reversed, in the middle) So yes, this rune came out on it's side so it's neither upright of reversed which suggests to me the feminine is in a state of confusion. You have been shaken to the core and it's lead to shaky beliefs and you may not yet be at a place where you know if you will persist or give up. It's the whole faith versus doubts and asking yourself, "Have I been pulling the wool over my own eyes?" You could either be taking back your power, or being overtly masculine energy and still trying to exert your power and control the situation. You may be taking back your power in a positive way through erecting healthy boundaries or in a negative way by projecting and allowing ego to run away with itself. Again, throw caution to the wind before deciding anything or taking action. Tiwaz Reversed - Failure in Battle So the masculine had this rune upright. It may literally mean that some of you felt defeated by the masculine if you've been experiencing power struggles, or that you tried to win the battle of control and failed. In reverse it represents feeling wounded, controlled, pushed away or even trying to progress forward through aggression and forcefulness (on either or both ends). The battle led to the destruction. You may feel there has been an injustice or as if this change has been forced upon you, hence inspiring some of you to take back your own power (either positively or negatively, or even elements of both). You weren't seeing something clearly and now it's felt like a slap around the face from the universe. This tough love may have you wondering if the universe really does have your back... But again, this is a blessing in disguise whatever the outcome. You had also put up a dam of sorts to try and contain or control this love and fear. You are being given the opportunity to free yourself from this painful stasis. Isa - "Ice" Many of you have literally put the connection "on ice" because you have also entered Hermit mode as you reassess everything and try to make sound decisions for the present moment and future. You are resting and recovering from all the upheaval. Some of you may be acting "cold as ice" because you are not sure how to relate to the masculine right now. You are "halting your horses" because you realise that maybe you were trying to pull that chariot way too fast and it was causing a lot of imbalance. The chariot may have completely tipped over on you! Both of you are having this opportunity to go inwards, see things more clearly and readjust to this totally new energy you are now in. The question on everyone's mind is, "How do I rebuild now the tower has crumbled?" Jera - "Harvest" Positive change is happening. It's scary to release that comfort zone or feel like your baby blankey has been ripped from your arms but it's a good thing! Just like the compost - the old has broken down for new to grow. Harvest will come. Manifestations are happening. Some of you have some mixed feelings of fear and a sense of celebration as those dams came bursting open. Control is ceasing so truth can enter. "It is the divine paradox that when we are asked to surrender a story or fantasy, it is because reality is knocking at our door, more often than not, with the delivery of what we have been fantasising about - but in the best way for us." - Rumi Oracle, Alana Fairchild If you would like to know what message spirit has for you regarding your connection and twin flame journey, then check out the Personal Rumi Message option below. Client's are always telling me how accurate the message on the card was for them! They are $11.11 for a video recording approx 7 - 12 minutes long. *Please note, these are me simply reading the in depth channelled message from the card*. Love Karen x Personal Rumi Oracle Message (private video recording)**Please Read the description carefully**I will shuffle the cards whilst I tune into your energies and pull out a card just for you. I will then record the message in a private video for you. The cards go into a lot of detail and can really provide profound insights for you. The recorded message will last between 7 - 12 minutes. Please allow 3days for your private message video link to be emailed to you. **This is simply me reading the detailed description for the card so please don't send me questions. If you like, you can think of a question in your mind as you purchase the Personal Message and the card will answer your question. Must be 18 years or over and agree to terms and conditions. $11.11 USD Hey there! I hope you are all doing very well despite the intensity of the current energies leading up to the Lions Gate Portal 8.8.18! I am very sorry that I missed last weeks energy updates. I was on holiday and planned to do them but found I was so busy that I had no time and needed to rest in the evenings. This week I am using the Oracle of Visions by Ciro Marchetti and the Botticelli Gold Tarot cards. Divine Masculine's EnergiesPerspective, Points of View Both twins are seeing things from the same point of view. They are in this together, they are a team. There is great strength in their bond and a sense of them both protecting their truth and their connection from those whom would not understand the meaning and purpose of their bond. With each other they are naked, tender and honest. With others around them, they keep their bond a secret for the most part. Their union is very sacred and precious to them so they create a safe sanctuary with each other but may put on a protective mask for the outside world. This is not a bad thing, they are simply protecting their bond and only allow others to get close whom they know they can trust to support the bond. They are birthing deeper union together in this safe space that they have created for one another. They share a deep telepathic bond and work together in unison. They reveal themselves only to each other and the worthy. The number 4 shows they have created stability and this necessary protection is forming the solid foundations for the union to blossom upon. This protection they create for each other is like the egg shell or the womb to protect the infant as it grows and strengthens before hatching into the world. They are yin and yang, shown by the young woman and the elderly woman, yet compliment each other perfectly. Messages, Deadlines, Anticipation Many of the feminine's are waiting for messages or communication from their divine masculine. This card talks of divine timing and shows that the masculine is also waiting for insights or the green light from spirit to make his move. The bouquet has already arrived suggesting that many masculine's have already offered a token of their love to the feminine from afar, a little note and gift of love to let the feminine know that he is returning and doing the work to put things in order before fully coming back. He is waiting on divine timing as he works hard, and waiting for instructions of direction from the divine to know the exact steps forward. There is a re-shuffling of things in both the twins life so everything is in it's right place for full alignment and union to occur. The pigeon brings a more in depth letter from the masculine which highlights that the masculine wants to reach out more so than before. He wants to open up and be vulnerable with you more than ever. He is working through his shadow side (shown by the moon) to overcome his fears of being so open and transparent. The message to the feminine is to trust and have patience. The masculine may be feeling anxious about deadlines or "missing the boat" if he doesn't take action soon, but at the same time he knows he cannot rush ahead before divine timing brings them into alignment. He can really feel this alignment with the divine feminine and "re-shuffling" happening and is feeling nervous that the time is coming near. Belonging, Acceptance, Assimilation The masculine's spent a long time trying to mould themselves to be like their peers, family and friends. This was compromising their truth though and for a long time they couldn't clearly see that. They had low self-esteem and worried about what other's thought about them constantly and so sought out approval from the wrong crowd. In the past they did not know how to love themselves and their individuality. Now they are re-evaluating what is more important - wearing a mask which blocks them from their true happiness, or revealing their truth to their soul tribe, their true family and being free and happy once and for all. Many of them have already made the decision to choose their truth. But they've come across many other's wearing masks of manipulative deception and so these are the "unworthy" whom he is now needing to protect himself and the union from. His self-esteem has sky-rocketed these past couple of months and so he is no longer wanting to play the charade that only holds him back. He's changed alliances because he realised that the side he was on was the true enemy. He is now choosing love, for himself and with his divine feminine. He wants to grow and so he is no longer holding himself back. The Hermit He has seen the light from within by going inwards. He felt more and more isolated in the wrong crowd and no longer resonated with their energy. At first it was a deep inner knowing that his mind could not wrap itself around. But the more he felt isolated, the more the deep intuition came up to the surface into his conscious awareness. In truth, he has always felt different, like an outsider, because he IS different - he is a sensitive twin flame! But from a young age he believed his sensitivity and individuality made him unworthy and weird when he didn't fit in with others. So in order to try and feel good enough as a person, he tried to mould himself to be like everyone else. He's been so afraid of being vulnerable in case someone saw who he truly is, which is his biggest strength, but he thought was a weakness. Now the masculine is learning to slowly come out of his shell to the feminine, whom he now realises is truly supporting him to be himself. This is liberating the masculine, but because of past scalding in his childhood for being his sensitive self, it's very scary and hard for him to fully trust he will be loved and accepted 100% for who he truly is. There is great fear of rejection, but he is starting to trust more. Three of Pentacles The masculine is co-operating more and allowing himself to be recognised for his divine gifts and skills with his feminine, and later, his soul family. This card traditionally shows them coming together to build the cathedral so he is taking the steps to ground himself in his spiritual life. The three pentacles are stepping stones in this deck and so this shows that he is making progress one step at a time to come out of his shell and be recognised. He is gaining more and more confidence with the more steps he takes. He is opening up to his creativity more also and allowing himself to dream big and know the universe is supporting him to manifest all that his heart desires. 8 of Swords reversed As he takes these steps he is freeing himself from the old constraints of his mind. He is releasing limiting and self-destructive mindsets that kept him bound in fear and stagnation for so long. He knows he deserves so much better than to waste his life in fear and let his dreams pass him by. He no longer wants to live in his daydreams and fantasies of union - he is actually taking the steps to make it happen! He is very determined because he feels he's already wasted so much time. He's now able to see how the karmic people in his life were trying to hold him back and bind him by pushing his fear and insecurity buttons to keep him off balance and insecure. He's taking back his power by seeing the truth and therefore stepping into and living his truth. Queen of Cups He is moving towards the divine feminine. He now sees her purity of heart and what she offers him in true love - liberation! He has raised his self-esteem to realise that he no longer has to try and change himself to conform with unworthy people to seek validation. He now sees that the feminine was always loving him for who he truly is and that he was only so suspicious of her love this whole time because he could not see his own worth. He wants to have an open heart and be free like the divine feminine. He wants to come together in union and feel liberated from his past shackles. He is appreciating the feminine because he now sees everything so clearly and he is so thankful for her love, patience and hard work. What message does your twin have for you?
Divine Feminine's EnergiesInner Peace, An Instant in Time The feminine is feeling much more at peace by living in the present moment and letting go of expectations regarding time. She knows her goals and healing are occurring in divine timing and is using her time to be positive and do things that she enjoys. There is renewed hope that everything is falling into place as she follows her divine guidance when it comes to her own actions. She knows it's only a matter of time before healing occurs and everything falls into place. She is patient and choosing to have gratitude for everything she already has and the beauty of the world around her. She has reached an epiphany that in the past she was manifesting things that she didn't want due to her negative thinking and so is taking the time to concentrate on optimism, joy and faith. She is seeing amazing results and her faith in the universe's support has returned. Offering Comfort, Healing, Caring The feminine is taking care of herself much more than in the past. Self-love, plenty of rest and healthy food is the key to self-nurturing and aligning yourself with the highest vibration. Many of you are speaking more kindly to yourselves and easing your own fears with thinking more positively. This is making a huge difference to your emotional, mental and physical wellbeing. Listen to your needs and don't put your healing off. You are worthy of your own self-love and you CAN heal. You just have to believe and then take the steps you are guided to take. The feminine also nurtures the divine masculine into his healing and strength. It's as though the dove (masculine) had a broken wing and the safe sanctuary you have created nurses the masculine back to strength and inner peace so he can fly again. It brings the feminine great peace and comfort to be her true, nurturing self with the masculine. You are setting yourself free from self-destructive thoughts, habits and cycles to align more deeply with so much inner peace. Dreams, Meditation, Spiritual Escape Your dreams will likely be very potent and full of meaning at this intense time. This morning I dreamt about people trying to steal things from me but I came running out of the house, grabbed my stuff back, shouted them down and the authorities came and took them away. Many of you are reconnecting with inner peace and healing through meditation and visualisation. You are finding comfort by connecting closely with the divine through going inwards and quieting your mind. You may have experienced many months when you were so busy and over-burdened that you felt you had no time to meditate or do your spiritual practices. This ended up making you feel disconnected, alone and lost. You are now feeling at one with spirit again and it's your own safe sanctuary for healing. The Devil During this intense time of retrogrades some of your old habits and self-destructive behaviours may come up again and you may feel tempted to ignore your healing, go against it in some way or procrastinate. This is happening to show you that you are in fact stronger than in the past so you can easily change your mindset to overcome the self-destructive tendencies. This could relate to things such as alcohol consumption, over-eating, watching trashy tv shows that you just know aren't good for your vibration etc. This devil energy is what you are healing from and overcoming. In the past you felt stuck and unable to heal something major but now you are seeing that you have what it takes to free yourself and through continuing to meditate and connect with spirit, you will be more aware of their assistance which will greatly support you. Be mindful of what your thought patterns are. Do you tend to always think negatively about everything? This is what your soul is calling you to transform now. Take back your personal power through positive thinking so you manifest your true hearts desires. Three of Wands reversed Don't put your life on hold waiting for things to change or progress. If you are on hold, your manifestations will be on hold too - your ships won't come in but will continue to circle just off shore. Live in the present moment! Enjoy your life! Don't hold out for healing or union to be somewhere in the future. Live as though your healing and union is here right now. Don't tell yourself "I will only do this or that or have fun once my manifestation has come in." If we constantly live for the future we never live in the now. Fortunately the first card for the feminine was "An instant in time" all about being in the present moment, so this is another aspect we are majorly healing right now. Live your life now! Be the joy and more joy will come! Queen of Pentacles Many of the feminine's have got their lives, for the most part, in order. It's a time to relax and reap the rewards of your hard work and success. It's time to enjoy yourself in the present moment with everything you have built up. You have grounded yourself and become stable and this represents the wholeness you have achieved. You now feel ready to share this wholeness with your twin flame in union because you feel that would be a magnificent cherry on top indeed! you have prepared yourself in the physical so you have a lot to offer in the 3D too. Three of Swords reversed This is you overcoming your heartbreak and things you felt would never heal in your life and connection. You were allowing yourself to be dragged around by negative thinking and doubts and it had hurt you so much. You felt exhausted and that's why you were tempted for instant gratification in the past through certain addictions or self-destructive behaviour. You didn't think you could heal, so a part of you thought "why bother trying?" But now you are seeing it was simply your mindset. The feminine has come to great epiphanies to do with mindset and illusions just as the masculine has. We are no longer procrastinating but actually doing what it takes to align with our highest timeline and it is so uplifting! If you would like further insights from spirit about how your twin flame is feeling and what's going on in your connection and spiritual journey then I have created a new "Dear Beloved" Reading with my newly created oracle deck! The meanings for each card are a channelled divine message from the Beloved about 1,000 words long. I am offering a $11.11 reading where I meditate upon your energy, pick a card and send you a beautifully presented PDF with the in depth card message. **Please note: These readings are simply me sending you the 1,000 word PDF channelled message from the card, not me creating an individual message for you. To book a "Dear Beloved" Message for $11.11, please see below. Dear Beloved Message PDF Reading**Please Read the description carefully** I have personally created the "Dear Beloved" Oracle deck specifically where I have channel twin flame messages. The meanings for each card are about 1,000 words long. I will shuffle the cards whilst I tune into your energies and pull out a card just for you. I will then email you the beautifully presented PDF message which is approximately 1,000 words in length. The cards go into a lot of detail and can really provide profound insights for you. Approx. 1,000 words Please allow 3 days for your message to be emailed to you. **This is simply me sending you the detailed card description from the oracle deck so please don't send me questions. If you like, you can think of a question in your mind as you purchase the Dear BelovedMessage and the card will answer your question. Must be 18 years or over and agree to terms and conditions. $11.11 USD |