Hey everyone, I hope you are doing very well. I am back again with another twin flame energy report. I am going to talk a lot about fantasy vs. reality when it comes to twin flame connections. I am going to discuss how the twin flame label can actually be the very limitation your soul is trying to expand you beyond and how the community in general has really gotten off track with all the focus on attaining a romantic outcome.
Now don't get me wrong, this isn't a story about how I once believed in twin flames, then got hurt and disappointed and suddenly didn't believe in twin flames anymore and became all bitter and did a 180 and was totally against it, saying it's all bullshit after all. No no. The connection I share with this man is still very real, it's just that all (or hopefully most of) the bs illusions we'd surrounded it with (which were more about ego desires) have been dissolved. The fear-based codependency has fallen away to reveal the true nature of our soul bond - unconditional love.
Yes, *yawn*, we've heard so many times that twin flames are all about unconditional love blah, blah, blah. The trouble is, these types of themes are discussed so much in the community that we become numb to them, they become like a catchphrase and lose their meaning because we stop taking the time to think deeply about what is being said and how it relates to our own connection in the present moment. For example, when we hear things like, "It's not about romance, it's about the soul growth", we can think "Yes" for a few seconds but then go back to pining after the romantic outcome over all.
As a divine messenger, a divine guinea pig, coming back to you with the results, sharing with you the rawness of my ever-evolving perspective as layer upon layer of bullshit peels away, I've got to risk looking like a fool on this unfolding path. It's all about the journey into truth after all isn't it? Not some bs holy grail story about reaching some fantasy destination of "union" that's been disguised as the whole purpose of the connection but is really the main bs factor in the whole equation? The whole point is that we have union right now and holding out for a 3D version to "prove it" is the very illusion we are meant to learn from and overcome. Sometimes we have to be burned by the illusion in order to honour the truth that may not seem as exciting to the ego, but is totally nourishing to the soul.
I now firmly believe that the REAL point, the real lesson we are supposed to finally grasp through this experience is how the seduction of fantasy actually robs us of our beautiful, grounded, present-moment reality. It causes us to focus on what's "missing" (looking outside of ourselves) and overlook what we already have (love, peace, joy within). It's ALL about perspective. Whatever story we attach to something is what we believe. So, if we believed we needed this person in a specific way to be happy, we're gunna be miserable unless we attain that. That's basically choosing misery when we place our emotional wellbeing on people and circumstances out of our control. But how we feel on the inside, that IS a choice, whether we want to believe that or not. Again, it may not sound as exciting to the ego than the fantasy of having a whirlwind romance with our twin flame, but the fantasy is merely the "outer wrapping" and inside ourselves is where the real substance of peace will be found.
That's what the devil card in the tarot has been about; two beautiful beings bound together in fear and the seduction of fantasy to try and stave away that fear, robbing them of the beautiful reality of what they truly share and what they truly are as individuals - unconditional love and peace, right now. The fantasy (created from a place of fear and illusion) binds, blinds, suffocates and limits us; the reality (created from a place of love and truth) liberates, enlightens and expands us.
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Many of us are at this stage of no longer holding out for a romantic relationship with our twin flame so now the fear of "non-union" (but that's an illusion in itself) has died. We've experienced a rebirth, we feel free, we're not afraid of loss. Many of you still feel the soul love but you're finally accepting that in the 3D you're just not compatible. You realise that the romantic fantasy was a form of escapism, a way to add so much wonder into your life with the excitement of the possible potential of the future. For many, the biggest fear is losing the dream. The connection you share is very real, but the projections we "get high" from become the poisonous addiction that keeps us stuck in stagnation and illusion and ultimately pain when we start to believe that our happiness and peace is out of our hands. It's not. It's only a story we believe that tells us we can only have the "ultimate happiness" with this other person.
When that bubble finally bursts and we have to face the reality which deep down we always knew, we begin to see just how much the red flags were clear all along, pointing to our 3D incompatibility. The whole twin flame "movement" seems to be obsessed with changing ourselves, waiting for our twin to change, waiting for the future or divine timing or something else that keeps us out of the loop of living life in the now and being happy now. Yes, we are told to be happy within ourselves rather than waiting for "twin" but, how many of us can fully be happy and at peace if we've always got one foot in the door of a possible future that always seems just out of reach? Can you be fully free to move forward, keep growing and expanding when that foot is wedged in that door, tethering you to the spot? But I believe we all go through this phase of holding onto the dream to learn just how much we were seeking happiness outside of ourselves and holding ourselves back in the present moment.
But many of us have now freed ourselves. In the past we would have turned down new opportunities, kept certain doors shut, stayed on a fixed path which was likely very limiting for us because we were holding out for a certain goal of union with our twin. We were clipping our own wings and waiting, travelling down the same road that turned out to be going in circles. We kept saying to ourselves, "I swear I've seen that tree before, that signpost looks familiar, here's the same crossroads again!" Eventually, the truth finally dawned on us (often through a tower moment) and we could finally accept that we were holding ourselves back. We'd held onto the belief that we knew our destination and had to just stay on the same path to get there and we thought we knew better than the universe about what's best for us. But it's really not meant to be such a struggle. Honestly. The ego loves struggle, but we've outgrown the ego. Instead, we've now thrown caution to the wind, we're allowing life to unfold as it will, allowing new doors to open, new outcomes to unfold. We are going with the flow, allowing the universe to deliver that which we were previously resistant to allowing.
I know this sounds typical of someone who's let go of the idea of a 3D twin flame union and it may be another yawn-inducing concept to some, but I too am no longer resonating so much with the "twin flame" label. But for ease of understanding I will still call him that. I haven't "demoted" him lol. I've just stopped being so singular in my focus. I'm expanding. When we focus so much on "twin flame" and "he/she's the only one for me", "...brings me the deepest meaning in my life" etc etc, we start closing the doors to other people, experiences and meaning in our life. The labels can create a lot of tunnel vision. To hold onto just one special person "made just for me" is beginning to sound very codependent and more like an ego-based thing. It's like a "you and me against the world" kind of attitude and I feel it's created more segregation in my life. It's like creating a barrier around you both, a special club where no-one else is allowed access. It makes you both feel special but it can start segregating you from the rest of the world around you. Hold onto the theories too tightly and you start squeezing yourself tighter and tighter into an obsessive bottleneck. It becomes very restricting.
Don't get me wrong, my isolation from the outside world around me has served it's purpose to make me closer to God, my own soul and self-love, but it's now time to ground myself again, get back out into the world and truly live all that I have learned over these years.
At this time I am much more drawn to the phrase "soul family" rather than "twin flame" as I feel it is far more "safe" of a category because it allows for movement, flow, flexibility, expansion and it's far less likely to induce codependency, obsession and isolation. I'm not even sure if there is the "One" but more likely several "ones" and no, I am not saying that just to kid myself that I can "transfer" all this love and fantasy I built up with my twin onto my new partner. I definitely feel we are all close soul family members. I'm actually very wary of labelling my new relationship, other than soul family. It isn't a case of now I'm with someone new I'm going to try and forget all about who I labelled twin, and project all these unresolved fantasies onto the new partner. No, no no, I want something real. And I want the realness of mine and "twin's" connection too. Letting go of fantasies allows you to align with the authenticity of it all, which allows for expansion and the dissolution of rigid tunnel vision.
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When we TRULY surrender and let go of the dream, reality comes knocking at our door and the reality is ALWAYS better than an illusion (fantasy). Yes, at first it may not FEEL better when you are going through the mourning stages of releasing the dream, but something much better for you comes along (if you have taken the time to do the healing work). What manifests is something that is much more in alignment with you, with your TRUTH. Many people worry that if they start a relationship with anyone other than their "twin", then that relationship wouldn't be as satisfying, would be "boring" or lacking in "spark" compared to your twin flame. But this is where fantasies have become damaging for you and for the potential of your future relationships with anyone other than "twin".
If you have this fear that a relationship with someone else would be "dull" in comparison to the one you labelled twin, then it's time to get TOTALLY honest with yourself. Was a lot of that "spark" for "twin" created by the countless "what if's", the tantalising mystery and suspense, the need for answers, the thrill of the chase, the brushing under the carpet of poor behaviour, the ups and downs of pleasure and pain, the fantasies of the "perfect" union? How much of the fantasy was actually grounded in 3D? Yes, there is an undeniable spark and euphoria of the soul love, yes the connection is very real, I'm not denying that or trying to devalue that at all, but was that really translating into harmonious bliss and compatibility in the physical? Or was everything littered with countless setbacks, obstacles, incompatibilities?
And no, I am not trying to imply a happy 3D relationship with someone else is either more or less important than this connection you have with "twin" either. I'm just trying to say that perhaps this connection is amazing in terms of soul love, healing, lessons, kinship etc etc, but maybe that just doesn't translate into a compatible romantic relationship. You can also have these spiritual qualities with someone whom you are compatible with and it will be different, I'm not trying to say it will be the same as with "twin", but "different" doesn't mean "not as good" as with "twin" either. Lets be conscious of the subconscious assumptions we might be making about other relationships. These subconscious cynical thoughts can be extremely damaging.
Let us all be aware of something: NO ONE CAN COMPARE TO A FANTASY. Are you going to shut the door on a potential beautiful reality because you're still seduced by a fantasy? Are you still going to choose to stay on that karmic merry-go-round? Are you brave enough to embrace the truth? Because the truth is far more beautiful than you think if you LET it be. Our perspective determines how we see it all. Are you going to choose to be grounded and real or spin yourself a yarn, getting tangled up in it all and being caught in the web of karmic pain? Again, I am not trying to devalue your "twin" connection, I'm just trying to help you expand your perspective, open your heart to ALL possibilities. Set yourself free, go with the flow. I assure you, it will bring you much more peace to just go with where the universe is trying to take you. If it all feels like such a struggle with "twin" then it's because something isn't quite right, it's just not clicking in that way. I no longer believe it's just a case of needing to "shift" something within yourself to make it happen with this person. Yes, shift yourself into deeper happiness and healing by all means, but be open to your highest good unfolding in ways you may not be allowing yourself to envision.
I'm now going to tell you something very important. The success or failure of your future happiness and future romantic life is determined by what perspective you decide to choose from this point onward. You have two choices. You can choose:
Perspective One: which goes something along the lines of, "I can only be happy with this one person, my twin flame." (they may not even be your twin, but even if they are, it might not be part of your contract to be with them romantically). "I can only be happy if a specific outcome happens with this one person." So you hold on and close the door to any opportunity with anyone else. Or you let them go and tell yourself "I lost my twin flame. I will never be happy again, I will never be as happy with anyone else." thus guaranteeing you will never be truly happy, you will be miserable and stuck on this person, stuck on the past, stuck on the fantasy, stuck on the "what if's" that were never even real, never truly opening your heart to anyone else, always comparing other people to a fantasy. But it's really just about how you are choosing to see everything. (It's 22:22 as I'm writing this!)
Or you can choose,
Perspective Two: which goes along the lines of, "It's dangerous to assume I know the whole story of how my life is meant to unfold. It's damaging to believe I can only be happy with one person. This person may not even be my twin flame. Even if they are, we may be destined for other partners who we can be happier with. The label "twin flame" can imply that this is the "ultimate partner" but is that really true? Or is that a man made concept based on old paradigms? I choose to remain open and flexible to allow my highest good to come in. I am no longer going to have rigid beliefs about my romantic life that clip my wings and potentially destroy my future happiness. I choose to be in the moment, to be grounded, to appreciate what is real rather than favouring a fantasy, which only keeps me ungrounded and focusing in the wrong direction. I am keeping my heart open to love in all forms." This allows you to keep your heart open to new people and possibilities that may be better for you. You realise it's your own perspective that makes all the difference. You ALLOW different possibilities to provide happiness, not just one fixed ideal you're trying to squeeze everything into.
Which one are you going to choose?
If you hold onto a label and convince yourself that that was your one chance of true happiness and you "lost" it, then you will always go into future relationships comparing them to that person, that dream, that very limiting outlook. That is why holding onto these labels can be very destructive to your future. Just imagine someone never got over someone from their past, and believed wholeheartedly that it was meant to work out with that person but it didn't, and now they believed they just had to just "settle" for someone else. What if they were wrong, what if it wasn't meant to work out with the person they thought was "the one"? What if they were meant to be with this new person but their limiting perspective held them back from ever being happy with the new person or any other person for that matter? That's a sad story that I hope never becomes a reality for anyone here.
What if this person IS your twin flame, but still, it wasn't meant to become romantic in the 3D? What if you were meant to have that kind of happy relationship with someone else? And what if this was always the plan and so your twin being with another woman or man is not them ignoring their truth but simply living out the soul contract that they are destined for. There's so much hatred and resentment projected (mostly) at the DM's and their "karmic partners". But what if they are genuinely meant to share their life together? Many DF's have moved onto another partner. I hear them often call their new partner a "soul mate". But what if DM's supposed "karmic" is a soulmate too? It sounds a little arrogant calling the DM's partner a karmic and DF's a soulmate lol. *Sigh*, it's all just labels, labels, labels. But hard to explain without them!
You have to CONSCIOUSLY choose your perspective when it comes to your connection and your love life. Fantasy is like a drug, it can get you high temporarily, but it will bring you crashing down again in the deepest of pain. Don't get addicted to the highs and lows and tell yourself it's just part of the journey into some idealised 3D union which is no reflection of the true soul union we are meant to see underneath these illusions. You will soon get bored of the drama. This is when you will truly honour and appreciate grounded harmony, peace and forthrightness that someone else may be able to offer you. What once seemed "dull" (emotionally AVAILABLE men / women) are now revered as mature, respectful and truly fulfilling. Your inner child that once subconsciously sought out the exciting drama and fantasy with the unavailable "twin" (as it tried to heal emotional unavailability it experienced from parents) has now healed and grown up. You've matured and become grounded within yourself to align with a grounded relationship. Many of you have now aligned with and manifested this. For some it *may* be with the "twin" but for many it is with some one new. For others, this is a possible future for you IF you allow it.
For many of you the highs and lows became too much. Those waves crashed down your once-rigid tower. The love is still there for this person, but your ego died along with the illusions. You matured.
Powerful Fear Removal to Attract Love Meditation
One of our biggest fears surrounding our twin flame connection is often the idea that union will never happen. This fear stirs up all sorts of painful emotions - abandonment, rejection, terror, heartbreak - no fun at all! To make matters worse, our fears make us act in all sorts of desperate ways that actually push away our twin flame - paranoia, jealousy, clingyness, bitterness etc. Our inner child is crying out to be loved in all the ways we felt abandoned and rejected in childhood.
When we yearn so badly for outer validation from our twin to the point of feeling desperate, energetically this repels union because we mistakenly believe we NEED union in order to feel happy, whole, loved etc, but our soul is trying to teach us to first align with union within - taking responsibility for our own emotional wellbeing.
In this meditation I take you to the heart of your fears. Instead of avoiding the fears by looking outside of yourself to your twin for validation and thus continuing to block the union, we will explore integrating these fears. Through allowing ourselves to get more comfortable with the possibility of life without union, with being happy and fulfilled regardless of what happens with our twin flame, we release the fears and allow the flow of our highest good to come into our lives. This opens us up to receiving union with our twin, if that is for our highest good. If not, then we have created a space to become fulfilled and happy within ourselves and our lives regardless, so it's a win-win situation!
Through releasing the fears and knowing you will be okay, more than okay, if union didn't happen, you reach inner union. You know that you are always in control of your perspective of how you see and live your life and so you can be happy if you choose to be no matter what.
This meditation activation removes the fears, brings you comfort and allows you to relax and align with inner union and outer union.
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But for others they are still holding on and that is okay because we all go through it in our own time. But again, you have a choice. You can keep holding on, slogging away, feeling frustrated, taking it personally, always waiting for the future, feeling lost, living in the uneasiness of feeling like something's just on the verge of completion then realising you're nowhere near. Do you keep watching twin flame YouTube readings and just feel this overall "Meh" feeling about it all, like it's so exhausting, boring, stagnating? You can keep going in that circle. But what's that circle trying to tell you? Why do you keep going in circles? What aren't you learning, what aren't you understanding? The lesson is what keeps you stuck in that inertia, circling this time and time again. You think that a fantasy union is what's going to get you off the merry-go-round of frustration and pain, but it's not. So you keep going round and round, again and again.
So how do you get off? By letting go of the idea of being with this person. And at first it feels so painful and so incredibly scary. But why?? What are those fears? What are they showing you? Why do you feel that you NEED this union, this other person? And don't say, "Because they are my twin flame, d'oh!" They are NOT your other "half". You're not incomplete without them. Twin flames are meant to be all about the philosophy of Oneness and non-separation. And yet, to say they are split and believe we must come into union is the separation illusion in one of it's greatest expressions!!
IT'S ALL AN ILLUSION. You're already one with your soul, your twin. You don't need the plane of illusion (the 3D) to come together as proof of "union" or "oneness". The whole point of this 3D Earth plane is that it's an illusion, so why would coming together in the plane of illusion be proof of oneness? The whole point is to see beyond that illusion. So don't go thinking you've failed and because you're not together in the 3D you missed out on union! It's almost as if the universe prevents a physical union just to make you stop focusing on the plane of illusion to realise the truth that you're always as one in the reality of your soul. Many of you, through surrendering the 3D illusions (expectations, fantasies) have truly come to realise that your bond really is unbreakable, because even when you've let that go, you still feel the oneness with them.
Some of you may be at a crossroads right now. But I urge you to be truly honest with yourself. A part of you might be feeling the call to truly surrender this, but your ego may be holding on. That's okay. I'm not judging. I've been there of course. It can feel extremely scary to let go. But to be honest, what are you really letting go of? Was there really anything 3D tangible truly happening with you and your twin anyway? For me and my "twin" we were never together in 3D, we never even kissed or anything like that. For almost a decade our connection has been mostly telepathic and online. For me, letting go was just releasing a dream that one day we would be together "properly". But for that whole decade we never were together "properly" lol in that 3D sense. So nothing's changed in that sense of letting go. We never had that and I now just accept we will never have that. But the connection is just the same as ever - the bond, the telepathy, the online contact (with a different focus now, mostly on celebrating the connection in the present moment rather than "working towards" a romantic relationship). All that's gone is a dream, a set of thoughts, a perspective. The subconscious feels so much pain in letting that go at first because the subconscious does not understand what is real and what is just a set of thoughts on repeat. It thinks you're losing something real, but you're just losing the thoughts. The realness of the connection has not changed at all. Just certain thoughts and the focus on romance have been dropped.
I hope my update has given you some food for thought. I hope it can help set you free of all resistance so you can allow the universe to deliver your highest good in the best way for you. If you are struggling to truly surrender and simply allow the universe to align you with what's best for you, then I really feel my guided meditation "I Believe, I Receive: Removing Blocks to Receive Love" will really help you. In this meditation I gently guide you to understand how the universe is trying to help you release resistance and guide you in the right direction to align with your deepest love and fulfilment. When you truly let go and look back at your own resistance and see the wonderful shifts that have occurred you will really see how for so long you'd simply been getting in your own way! Step aside and let the universe take you to where you're meant to be! If you're interested then please purchase for $11.11 USD below for an instant download.
Love and Light to you of your continued journey,
I Believe, I Receive: Removing Blocks to Receive Love POWERFUL ACTIVATION mp3
Has there ever been a time in your life when all you wanted was a loving relationship but you felt as though the universe was keeping that from you? No matter what you did a relationship would never get off the ground or would fall apart at the seams the second it did. Do you feel this way about your twin flame connection too?
In this powerful activation I guide you on a journey to see that past relationships didn't work out in order to steer you in the RIGHT direction towards TRUE happiness and love, towards true union. I help you to truly understand that the universe has always been supporting you to align you with what is best for you, your highest good even if it didn't seem that way at times.
You see, the universe always has our back and is truly wanting us to experience the best love possible for us. They were trying to help us turn our focus away from those who weren't serving us so we could look inwards and love ourselves first in order to achieve true happiness and attract the RIGHT person, our twin flame. It's all about resonance. If we aren't fully loving ourselves then we cannot align with true love on the outside either. The universe was trying to get us happy in our own skin on our own so we can love ourselves unconditionally and become that high vibration in order to have that mirrored back to us on the outside in the form of a happy and harmonious union.
However, when we still have subconscious beliefs in the background telling us that the universe is conspiring against us, or is "punishing" us by withholding love from us, then this subconscious belief manifests as blocks to us receiving love. Whatever we believe we receive.
In this meditation I help you reconnect with the universe so they can show you just how much they love you and truly want the best for you. I help you to break down those old limiting beliefs and blocks in order to integrate the truth that you deserve true love and union and the universe is assisting you in achieving that. All it takes is to shift into trust and faith that the universe is serving you and knows you are totally worthy of everything you wish to receive. And then you can surrender and give up trying to control things as the universe helps everything manifest in divine order for you. You see, it's about getting out of our own way to allow our highest good to flow in!
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